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The Power is yours… Quote No.86 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.86 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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More than half the population of our precious planet is in lockdown, meaning we have lost control of our own autonomy. We are united in this loss of control and we are united in being offered a valuable lesson. We can’t control what’s happening in the world but we can control our own attitude to it and what we learn from it. Don’t judge others or try to control how they handle it… “Let situations unfold in their own way and time. And they will.”

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

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The Power is yours… Quote No.94 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Come join us, we could be here for a while by the looks of it!  For the backstory The Power is yours… Quote No.99 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Others”

Quote No.94

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Encourage Yourself Encourage Others Anne Devine. Enquiries info.devinepublishing@gmail.com

 

Anybody can act out like a child but real power lies in staying calm.  Model this ability to others!

What do you do to avoid acting out?  Please share any helpful tips you have, it might make a big difference to someone else’s day.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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Walking into 2020…

No matter where you are in the world, remember as you walk forward into 2020 you have your friend at your side and I’m here for you waiting in the shadow…

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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Bullying & Beyond…Denial

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

When we deny who we are and how we really feel, either physically and/or mentally we silence our authentic self.  We reject ourselves. For years I didn’t admit that I have fibro/fatigue, except to a few family members and close friends. When we reject ourselves we are bullying ourselves. We think we are not good enough, we focus on our flaws and feel a sense of shame.

Similarly, when we are bullied we are also silenced. We are judged by someone and denied the opportunity to be our real selves. We think we are not good enough and we withdraw from society or family. When we withdraw emotionally we block off our true emotions, denying ourselves the right to acknowledge and feel our emotions.

When our daughter experienced bullying, it caused her to step into survivor mode. She put up a front whilst crying inside.  She couldn’t let the bullies see her crying. She knew if she broke down crying, it would fuel even more bullying.

After finishing secondary school she moved past bullying, building back her resilience. She participated in further education and in society. She set and achieved many new goals. She met new and inclusive peers, friends and educators. All these mature, self-aware people bolstered her confidence.

However, even if it’s been years since you were bullied, a simple, present day event may unexpectedly trigger the same feelings. This was the case for our daughter.  It only took one educator to criticise Emma and her work, in front of her peers, to bring our daughter right back to survival mode.

This time it was different. Emma found the courage to address the issue to her school counsellor. She sought advice. She spoke up to that educator. She stood up for herself. She didn’t need to call upon her parents. She was self-sufficient.

But despite speaking up for herself, the trauma of being disrespected and denied the right to be herself, triggered her survival mode. All the things she could do with ease soon became overwhelming. That was almost nine months ago.

Anxiety
Low mood
Mood swings
Isolation
Fear
Agoraphobia
Panic attacks
Loneliness

All symptoms of bullying.

Then Emma’s new puppy, Doris arrived.

 


More mental health support came on-board.  But there are still ups and downs.

She felt lonely a few nights ago but she didn’t deny her feelings. She didn’t hide it. She cried for the loneliness and for the years of denying her true self.  You can learn more about isolation here Bullying & Beyond…A victim’s abject loneliness.

She cried while we were away, only showing us a glimpse when we returned. But a glimpse is enough to show us that she has turned a corner because now she is beginning to listen to and acknowledge how she feels.  She is learning to externalise how she feels instead of internalising the pain. That is a big step and an important lesson!

We can also learn a lesson from her new, trainee Psychiatric Assistance Dog, Doris.

Doris saw Emma’s upset. Doris didn’t deny her. The opposite in fact, Dorris, a little puppy, stretched herself across our daughter’s lap and kissed and licked her. Dorris accepted Emma exactly as she was.

Have you been denied the right to be yourself?  Do you deny yourself? What supports can you access to build your resilience and be your true self?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

Joyful poppycock…

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Paula’s Light prompts of Brazil, Nut & petunia for some weird reason made me think of a bit of random fun and joy.  Where that idea came from I don’t know but I’m learning to trust and follow my gut feeling… so read on if you’re in the market today for some joyful poppycock and in case you’ve never come across some poppycock before and need a little confirmation of what it is, here’s a few synonyms… to leave you in little doubt!

Synonymsapplesauce [slang], balderdashbaloney (also boloney), beansbilgeblah (also blah-blah), blarneyblatherblatherskiteblitherboshbull [slang], bunkbunkum (orbuncombe), claptrapcodswallop [British], crapola [slang], crockdriveldroolfiddlefiddle-faddlefiddlesticksflannel [British], flapdoodlefolderol (also falderal), follyfoolishnessfudgegarbageguffhogwashhokeypokeyhokumhoodoohooeyhorsefeathers [slang], humbughumbuggeryjazzmalarkey (also malarky), moonshinemucknerts [slang], nutspifflenonsensepunkrotrubbishsenselessnesssillinessslushstupiditytaradiddle (or tarradiddle), tommyrottoshtrashtrumperytwaddle

 

Sometimes you can’t

find the joy,

in Ireland or in Brazil

nuts, but it makes you think,

Where’s the Joy gone?

And how can you reclaim it?

 

Sleep on it,

The wise man said

And ask The Universe,

that’s the boy

to ask for joy

And let it manifest.

 

So nap I did, and what a trip

with little provocation,

and no apparent

rhyme or reason…

 

A Purple Pimpernel appeared

In a dream

from Instagram’s

artyplantsman https://www.instagram.com/p/BzLw-S-AJQe/?igshid=jjqt76jgsz3k

(You won’t be dissapointed if you take a look)

the petunia knew

the purple hue

was the cue to it’s joy-cation!

 

What a random load of poppycock!

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With fun & joy,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

 

Life – more grass than flowers, on Monday’s Memory Lane.

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Welcome to Monday’s Memory Lane where I share a post from before we came to know each other.

Do you ever feel overwhelmed?  Does life feel too busy?  Have we become addicted to being busy?  How do we shift our focus to a more positive one?  I hope you will read on…Life – More grass than flowers? Shift your focus!

Le gra,

Mindfully Marie xx

An Irish wave… topped off with a hug!

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Beautiful County Waterford coastline!

 

You can’t beat the sight or sound of a wave, or many waves to wash over you and sooth your spirit.   A friendly wave from across the street or from a friend as they drive past also lifts my spirit.  Top it off with a hug and you’re onto a winner.

Do waves and hugs improve your day?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie.

Inspired by Calmkate’s Friday Fun – Waves @ aroused blog

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Feeling confident is… on Monday’s Memory Lane

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Welcome to Monday’s memory Lane where I share a post from before we came to know each other.

What does feeling confident mean to you?… Feeling Confident is…

I wish you a day filled with love, particularly self love, the kind that gives you the courage to be comfortable in your own skin!

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

Fibromyalgia day… is everyday!

 

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May 12th was Fibromyalgia awareness day…

Welcome to my Fibromyalgia awareness day post… yes, a few days late!  Why?

Simply because…

Fibromyalgia doesn’t play by the rules! It doesn’t respect you just because you plan to write a post for Fibromyalgia day…

Fibromyalgia is unpredictable and messes with your plans!

But, life still carried on and the world didn’t fall apart. So this is for all who live with Fibromyalgia as a companion …

Fibromyalgia is…

F athomless, it’s an

I illusive illness, that’s painful & perplex,

B oth ruthless and instructive,

R uins you

O r

M atures

Y ou,

A s it

L languishes or livens your soul;

G rab it to you, seek out its gifts

I nscribe your name on it, as you

A chieve your dreams & nothing less!

 

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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