Quote No.11 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.
This quote is particularly relevant now more than ever. Don’t be afraid to “Honour and remember those you love in your way.”
We are a country with a long-standing tradition of showing our respects in remembering our deceased relatives, neighbours and friends. However, Covid19 restrictions have caused funeral traditions and services here in Ireland to change.
Now only a limited number of family members can attend a funeral wake and mass now. That could limit a funeral size to ten or twenty family members only.
Relations, friends and neighbours have started forming a socially distanced line along the road side leading to the church or graveyard instead. These changes are difficult for all concerned. Respect how others cope with these changes. Allow other to honour and remember those they love in their way.
Quote No. 23 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.
I’m feeling very grateful to have had the opportunity yesterday to take part in an Adler Cafe with the Adlerian Society UK Institute for Individual Psychology (ASIIP).
The topic we discussed was that of Encouragement asking how and why people might be discouraged at the moment?
We spoke about the importance of not going inwards in ourselves but to keep outward looking, showing concern for others and also showing ourselves empathy.
We noted the need to care for ourselves first in order to be able to care for others. Caring for others can have an uplifting effect on our own mental wellbeing. A sense of belonging keeps us connected.
We also considered how we can nurture encouragement and help people flourish during the challenges of Covid19.
Some responses included,
Tapping into our strengths
Reinforcing the strengths we see in others
Giving people space
Keeping focused on our priorities
Focusing on what’s within our control
Talking in positive ways about fear
Acknowledging those fears and accepting them, helping to normalises them
Finding ways to defuse fear and lead back to encouragement
Volunteering where possible
And of course the important role of humour.
We also discussed the importance of taking responsibility, facing up to the possibility of our own mortality or that of close relatives by having the difficult conversations about death. Putting a plan in place so other family members know our health care and/or funeral wishes. This can save a lot of upset when somebody becomes critically ill.
How and why might you be discouraged at the moment?
Quote No.27 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.
Isn’t it amazing when you stop to think about it? There are thousands of blogs and bloggers here, yet no two bloggers are the same or have the same voice. Each voice speaks to me in it’s own unique way! Do you agree? I know I have come to recognise so many wonderful, insightful, warm and entertaining voices. I hope you see yourself in my list! Embrace your unique self!
And as for flaws! Couldn’t we write a book on flaws and what a creation that would be! We all have flaws. Learning to embrace our imperfection is the gateway to possibility…
To all who struggle with this pandemic or any chronic illness, this is for you, just know you are never alone, you are in the best of company…
It crumbles like sand
Overcome by a wave
Stealing your inspiration
Or your power to investigate.
Physical tasks must be trimmed
Right down to the quick,
Mental tasks tease,
Like a shadows in the sun
Now you see me…
now I’m gone!
So quickly it fades,
From functioning… To falter,
What felt like a good day or good hour,
consumed and usurped,
Leaving you literally stranded in the midst of stuff!
It dehydrates your thoughts,
It punctures and deflates,
She has you caught
Laughs and knows she’s fine,
while she has you there,
Then leaves you short
Refusing to repay the debt.
So does it defeat you
Steal from you and
Rob you blind?
Or can you befriend it?
Mould and adjust it?
Even a little at a time?
Well, those are questions you pose
And repose, numerous times each day,
As you show up to a
Battle that could go either way!
And is there an answer
To this piece of arithmetic?
Is there is vacination
That can do the trick?
Well the answer is as fickle
As the ego, when it’s in full play
And it defies all logic
On any given day!
Sadly it’s more complex,
As it’s catching in your breath
And the answers
at best, are really hit and miss!
Some discovered and uncovered
Are a chumley mix of tricks
Pause… and take a moment, to simply catch your breath…
And with dire warning…
Never, ever, use the words…
“Rest,” my Da would say…
“Hold your horses, sweet Marie”
Now I recall his kindness
and cherish his request
I dismount & recoup
Heeding his bequest!
Then like a flame rekindling,
Though; not as quickly as it faded
With a streak of determination
You saddle up again…
A dawn of inspiration seeps in slowly, like the morning sun
And brings with it a power, to investigate anon and
With a steely determination
So worn and battle weary,
You acknowledge your, position or condition
And face the day quite cheery!
And with the wisdom of any moment, being yet again undone
You accept what you can
And leave the rest…
To all who struggle with this pandemic or any chronic illness, this is for you, just know you are not alone, we are in the best of company!
Quote No.62 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”….Victor E.Frankl, “Man’s Search For Meaning.”
“Remember that you are not a victim.” What attitude do you choose today?
Quote No.64 from Encourage YourselfEncourage Others by Anne Devine.
Have you had times during lockdown when you were unsure of what to do? Did you consider it from different angles and seek advice from others? Were you able to “Trust that things will work out in their own way and in their own time.”