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Monday’s Memory Lane…

Welcome to Monday’s memory lane where I share an old post…

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In this post I tried to describe anxiety through the five senses… ABSTRACT ANXIETY

If you could see, hear, taste, smell and touch anxiety how would you describe it?

Le grá,

Mindfully Marie xx

Bullying & Beyond… 10.Painting the pain, part three.

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

As hard as I’ve tried, I can’t paint the pain of bullying experienced by our son because the canvas is blank and will remain blank as our son, kept almost all of the painful details to himself.

What I can paint is what we as parents noticed at home, which included, his frustration shown through nasty comments and angry outbursts. His loss of interest in his hobbies. His withdrawal into himself. His sleep pattern changed dramatically, unable to get to sleep resulting in him sleeping longer into the morning and soon he developed insomnia.   He was awake at night and asleep during the day.   We slowly noticed a real change in his pleasant and warm personality.    All these changes led to self-isolation and school refusal.

We stood by helplessly, watching our warm, outgoing, resilient child slowly disengage from all aspects of his normal functioning life.

This did not happen over-night. Being bullied was something that chipped away at his resilience and eventually over years, wore him down.

Every child, no matter their age, sex, nationality, colour or faith is entitled to attend school, to feel happy and included. They deserve to achieve, to the best of their ability, without the fear of bullying and its devastating effects.

The pain of his upset is still visceral as I recall and share these memories.  It hurts because I realise, yet again, that the sheer frustration and powerlessness we felt came from feeling unheard in a broken system.  This feeling of isolation compounded the impact bullying was having on our family.

Thankfully we have, as a family and individually, empowered ourselves to move forward whilst not diminishing the pain of the past. But instead wanting to put our learning to the service of others.  You might like to read our son’s attitude, Bullying…”I am grateful for it all”…

Have you or your children experienced bullying?  Did it wear down your child’s resilience? Did it render you silent and make you feel powerless?

I would love to hear your experience so that together we can let other families know that they are not alone.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

Learning… to sing

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Don’t let the sun set…don’t leave your song unsung! Marie Clancy.

I love learning and the focus of my blog is “creating, living, learning.”

I especially love when learning comes about because you’ve seen something from a different perspective… like today when I learned something pretty important…

thanks to Donna @ A Year of Living Kindly and her excellent post and the quotes listed below

The Writer as Wounded Healer

I realised the reason why I have to follow my heart and try to begin a conversation about bullying.  I realised the reason I can’t stand back is because…

“The song I came to sing is left unsung. I spent my life stringing and unstringing my instrument.” Rabindranath Tagore.

And today I also found myself learning that I can’t let embarrassment of my wounds hold me back because…

“Nobody escapes being wounded. We are all wounded people, whether physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. The main question is not, ‘How can we hide our wounds?’ so we don’t have to be embarrassed, but ‘How can we put our woundedness in the service of others?’ When our wounds cease to be a source of shame, and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers.” Professor and theologian Henri Nouwen.

Are you holding back from you song? Will you trust enough to sing your song?  Will you hide your wounds or use them in the service of others?  I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Dee’s word of the Day…learning https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/80183056/posts/2192220572)

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

 

Just one Minute Monday…Open!

 

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Open up your mind at every opportunity! Something’s right there in front of you waiting to be seen!

Just One Minute Monday (4).

Today I’m taking a minute to savor the feeling of warm summer air on my skin.  Have you ever paid attention to what warm air feels like on your skin?

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Shur I have Spain at home!

We are having temperatures that are way higher than average for this time of year. We’ve had some days reach 30 degrees. This is our hottest summer in 100 years. I don’t think I can ever remember wearing summer clothes for so long. This is so out of the ordinary for Ireland. Our summer’s are usually a few days of sunshine mixed with cooler rainy days. A blue sky without rain-clouds is a rare sight! I can’t remember ever feeling our house so warm indoors, from early morning to last thing at night. Our windows and doors are flung open trying to generate a draught. Cooking over a hot cooker is a big no-no! I’ve never eaten so many light, healthy salads. We are eating breakfast and supper outdoors and it’s even too warm to eat dinner outside, we have to eat inside.

The warm air feels so healthy on my bare arms, my freckles are multiplying and I can’t stop looking up at the bright, cloudless blue sky thinking “Shur i have Spain at home!” I feel carefree!

How does warm air and blue skies make you feel?

Much love,

Marie xx

Just One Minute Monday (3).

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Recently while on holiday, I practiced my ‘Just One Minute Monday’ as we walked to the shops for our groceries.  My son and his girlfriend were walking in front of me, the shops were a ten minute walk each way.  The average temperature from 10am to 8pm was 30 degrees.  It wasn’t an easy walk in that heat. I’m not into counting steps and I don’t own a step counter but lots of people exercise now by counting their steps and increasing the number of steps they take daily.

I thought about the amount we walk everyday and particularly the pace we have become accustomed to.

I wondered how often do we actually slow down our steps?  Have you ever even noticed how fast you walk? Do you constantly rush from one task to the next?  Because I was on holiday I paused and focused on my steps.  I slowed down my steps. I noticed the inclines and the declines.

I listened to the sound our steps made.  I felt my heart rate slow its pace.  I felt grateful for those moments, those steps I was able to enjoy in the company of two young adults.

When have you last paid attention to how fast you walk?  Have you ever deliberately focused on your steps?  Maybe today is the day to focus one minute on your footsteps.

Much love,

Marie xx

Just one minute Monday…

Today I’m spending the day relaxing on Inch Beach in the beautiful County Kerry. Inch is just one of many amazing spaces along the Wild Atlantic Way.  You can check it out here…

https://www.discoverireland.ie/Arts-Culture-Heritage/inch-strand/91730

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5km of beautiful beach…Inch Beach, County Kerry.

 

Today is a public holiday, part of the June Bank Holiday and we have fantastic temperatures between 22 and 25 degrees.  You can check out Met Eireann here…

https://www.met.ie/forecasts/munster

And in the middle of all this beauty and relaxation I’m taking one minute to be really grateful and mindful of this beautiful weather.  It has been a long winter and a sunny day lifts everybody’s spirit!  It’s heart-warming to hear conversations and laughter blowing on the breeze and to see families spending time together, outdoors, soaking up the sun, building sand castles and swimming or surfing in the sea.  It also brings back many fond memories of holidays spent on the beach with our two children when they were young.

What might your Just one minute Monday be?

Much love,

Marie xx

 

 

Just One Minute Monday!

I’ve decided to take just one minute of quiet time. Just one minute to pause. It’s been a busy day and my energy reserve is low.

I’m going to look around me and be grateful for where I am and what I see. I’m going to be grateful for what I managed to achieve today even if it wasn’t what I had hoped to achieve.

I might focus my thoughts on somebody I love or somebody I haven’t been in contact with in a while. I might think of you, my blogging friends. I might think of a deceased loved one. Or maybe I’ll focus on a favourite quote or recite a mantra.

The 60 seconds will provide time for a little quiet space within a busy day.  I’d love you to take just one minute with me today.  Maybe we can make “Just One Minute Monday” a regular weekly habit.

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Paws (pause) because you can!

What do you do to take just one minute of quiet time?

Much love,

Marie xx

 

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