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The Power is yours… Quote No. 11 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.11 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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This quote is particularly relevant now more than ever.  Don’t be afraid to “Honour and remember those you love in your way.”

We are a country with a long-standing tradition of showing our respects in remembering our deceased relatives, neighbours and friends. However, Covid19 restrictions have caused funeral traditions and services here in Ireland to change.

Now only a limited number of family members can attend a funeral wake and mass now.  That could limit a funeral size to ten or twenty family members only.

Relations, friends and neighbours have started forming a socially distanced line along the road side leading to the church or graveyard instead.  These changes are difficult for all concerned.  Respect how others cope with these changes.  Allow other to honour and remember those they love in their way.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

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The Power is yours… Quote No. 24 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.24 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

 

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We are approximately two months into Covid19 Lockdown and the myriad of new challenges associated with it.

How do you “deal with what is,” what you are finding is your new, present day reality?

How do you avoid stressing about tomorrow or next week, the “what if?

Please share any strategies that have helped you and anything you have learned as a result.

I’m learning to expand my Covid Coping Toolkit.  A few things I’ve added include more meditation, more uplifting YouTube videos, replacing lost physical contact with online video chats via Zoom,  more family time, phone calls, walks and more appreciation of bird song which is easier to hear now with less traffic where I live.

I’m also learning to stay grounded in the moment, just taking it one day or even one hour at a time.  Sometimes there are challenging hours.   Yesterday’s challenging hour taught me that there is a miracle waiting within each grievance, to teach us something if we are ready to listen.

Note to self..”I found the miracle!  I became what Tolle calls the ‘watchful observer.’  I caught myself in the act.  And it taught me to look at my reaction to the event, not the event itself.  I realised that my reaction, which resulted in silence and resort to junk food during the grievance yesterday weren’t constructive choices.  I’ve since spoken about it, pointed out how I felt.  No blame, no bad feeling, no grievance!  No pain!  That is the miracle!

Roll on today!

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No. 39 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.39 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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The behaviour I find difficult is feeling ignored.  Thankfully with each day that passes I am learning that I don’t need to feel ignored, I no longer want that feeling and I’m getting better at letting that feeling go.

I’ve also learned that when you learn how to find yourself you no longer feel isolated or lonely any more.  You realise you have a unique voice and you feel empowered to use it.

Anne reminds us that “Nobody likes to be… talked about behind their backs.”  Try today to catch yourself in the act of gossip.  It is not a nice personality trait to have and observing this habit in yourself, is the first step to changing it.  “Keep kindness to yourself and others high on your priority list.”

Here Mich of michnavs shines a light on gossip culture in the Philippines.  A worthwhile read…

https://michnavs.wordpress.com/2020/05/04/surveillance/

What behaviour upsets you most? 

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No.56 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.56 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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Always be willing… to support, to realise, to ask!

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No.60 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.60 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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Sounds easy…

But when you stop to think about it, how well do you score out of 10?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No.80 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.80 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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Now that we have more time on our hands, share it freely but think before you unwittingly create a new unspoken contract. It may or may not be easy for you to move on after lockdown if you’ve developed a binding contract!

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Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

The Power is yours… Quote No.86 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.86 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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More than half the population of our precious planet is in lockdown, meaning we have lost control of our own autonomy. We are united in this loss of control and we are united in being offered a valuable lesson. We can’t control what’s happening in the world but we can control our own attitude to it and what we learn from it. Don’t judge others or try to control how they handle it… “Let situations unfold in their own way and time. And they will.”

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

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Bullying & Beyond…Loneliness

 

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

In my previous post I wrote about the importance of self-care, you might like to read it 4.Self-care x 10! When you or your children are struggling to cope with bullying it is very important to continue to practice self-care during and after the event.   Being bullied can cause strong feelings of loneliness which come from the isolation of bullying. Bullying thrives on isolation and fear. Lack of access to information, lack of support and worse still lack of knowing which way to turn or who to ask for help all serve to enhance the isolation and loneliness you feel!

The loneliness was something I found hardest to cope with as I struggled to find answers and effective support.

But there is help out there.  Don’t allow yourself to be rendered voiceless.

I want YOU to know that I am here for YOU and YOU are not alone…reach out, share your concerns and talk about the bullying you or your child are experiencing.

What has been your experience of the loneliness of bullying?  How would you describe the loneliness of bullying?  How did you overcome it?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

Bullying & Beyond…Improve your Listening Skills!

 

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

In my previous post…Bullying & Beyond…2.Really Listen!…I wrote about the importance of Listening.  When somebody, be it a child or an adult, is distressed as a result of bullying, just having somebody who is willing to listen to them can make a huge difference to how they feel.  Your first reaction may be to rush in and immediately solve everything but instead be patient and listen.

Here are some simple tips I found helpful,

1.Acknowledge your child’s emotional state -say that you can see how upset, angry etc., they are.

2.Remove or resist any distractions.

3.Make sure you can clearly hear what your child is saying.

4. Focus your attention and concentrate.

5. Be patient, listen to the whole story.

6. Make encouraging, agreeable sounds to show you are paying attention…’mmm,’ ‘I see,’ ‘oh right’.

7. Avoid making judgements – take time to consider before offering solutions.

8. Ask questions to clarify.

9. Keep an open mind.

10. Summarise or sum up what you heard, ‘so the main problem was’ or ‘if I understand properly you feel…’ to let them know you understand exactly.

Remember to pay attention to their tone of voice and observe their body language, which can give you insights or hidden messages which they may not be able to voice.

If you agree on any particular course of action or efforts to address the issue, be sure and follow through.  Listening needs to be followed up with action, even if it’s only arranging follow-up conversations.  If you fail to follow-through, your child may get the impression that what they have confided in you, just goes in one ear and out the other.

For any victim of bullying, building and maintaining trust is so important and this can’t happen unless you stick to your word.

I hope you find this helpful.  Please feel free to share any experience you have had which would have benefitted from active and effective listening.

Alternatively please share some effective approaches you have used. I would love to learn what worked for you.

Much love,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

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