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The Power is yours… Quote No. 39 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.39 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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The behaviour I find difficult is feeling ignored.  Thankfully with each day that passes I am learning that I don’t need to feel ignored, I no longer want that feeling and I’m getting better at letting that feeling go.

I’ve also learned that when you learn how to find yourself you no longer feel isolated or lonely any more.  You realise you have a unique voice and you feel empowered to use it.

Anne reminds us that “Nobody likes to be… talked about behind their backs.”  Try today to catch yourself in the act of gossip.  It is not a nice personality trait to have and observing this habit in yourself, is the first step to changing it.  “Keep kindness to yourself and others high on your priority list.”

Here Mich of michnavs shines a light on gossip culture in the Philippines.  A worthwhile read…

https://michnavs.wordpress.com/2020/05/04/surveillance/

What behaviour upsets you most? 

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No. 43 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No. 43 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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I feel like Anne wrote this one especially for me!

I’m enjoying the challenge of showing up to my blog, almost daily, to share Anne’s warm and insightfully encouraging quotes.  I’m also writing a gratitude journal.  Reading back through my Journal on Christmas Day last was the best gift I gave myself for Christmas and I’m pretty sure my happiness in sharing some precious memories flowed over onto my family.

What do you do to encourage yourself and encourage others?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No.52 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.52 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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What have you done during Lockdown that’s been new to you?

I’ve taken part in a Zoom poetry club and a Zoom Cafe Adler.  They were fun and they gave me the opportunity for some new learning.  I enjoyed the sense of community and it helped replace the social interaction I’ve been missing!  I’ve also been busy sharing and enjoying these positive quotes and the lovely interactions they are creating for me!

Please share something you’ve never done before, something new and different that you’ve been doing!

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Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx
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The Power is yours… Quote No.54 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.54 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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Coping during this pandemic takes real courage, actually it takes twice as much courage!

Choose ways to be actively kind to yourself.” Make time for that walk or bath.

Be creative, when you can’t have a real cinema night, have a home, virtual cinema or “Watch Party” night.

You will be well placed to handle everything life  throws at you; family illness, separation, isolation, pain and loss coupled with the fear and uncertainty of this new unknown.

Be extra kind to yourself and others today!

What’s on your list today?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine. (If you would like your own copy of Anne’s book send your enquiries to info.devinepublishing@gmail.com)

 

A matter of focus…

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Last night’s beautiful Irish sunset. Approaching darkness or embracing light?

 

Do you see the darkness when you look at this photo or do you see the light?

Do you see people panic buying and paralysed by the unprecedented changes to our daily lives caused by Covid19?

Or do you see ordinary people doing extra-ordinary things to reach out and support one another, in ways not seen before?

This is an opportunity to change our focus,

From

‘What about me?’

to

‘What can I do for you? And then realising, what that just did for me!’

We can all do something with the time we are being given!

What are you doing?

I’m working from home, at least until the 29th of March.  After that the future is unclear but that doesn’t matter because we only have to focus on this, one day at a time!

I never thought supporting others with their literacy development by phone, e-mail and online could be so fulfilling.  I’m finding myself present in somebody’s isolation. I’m a voice and a listening ear. I’m having conversations about the fear this virus is causing.  And in the same conversation I’m talking about the power of being connected to each other and its positive impact on mental well-being.  I’m highlighting the importance of distraction and the opportunity to set small learning goals…

Like

Taking a break from news updates

and overwhelming media stories,

To

Setting a goal for this morning

And one more for tonight,

Like

Reading something you enjoy,

Then

Writing the paragraph you just read,

And then selecting two spellings

Breaking them into syllables such as

Information….

In / for / ma / tion

Or

Situation…

Sit / u / a / tion

Then with a sense of satisfaction and achievement,

sitting back and reminding yourself

that we are resilient

And each one of us is capable of great things!

 

What do you think?  Is there darkness or light?

Do you have a goal in mind to help others?

What do you think it will do for you?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

 

 

 

Bullying & Beyond…this is the reality

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

Trigger alert…this post is upsetting.

Lives are destroyed by bullying.

Children’s mental, emotional and psychological health damaged not only in the short-term but often into the long-term.

Lives are lost, too often, to bullying.  Children unable to cope with the torture inflicted on them by bullies sadly see no way out, other than to take their lives.

I might be writing this from Ireland and this story may refer to Yarraka Bayles, a boy on the other side of the world but the location is irrelevant… bullying is bullying and this is the reality for another child and another family. It is a horrific, upsetting reality.

This bullying is focused on dwarfism.  But if it wasn’t about dwarfism it would be about anything else the bully decided they didn’t like about their victim such as their weight or even their accent.  Take a few moments to educate yourself and then take a few moments to educate your children… because this is a reality that is totally avoidable and it is a reality no child or parents deserve!
Le grà,
Mindfully Marie xx

Bullying & Beyond…Acceptance & Resistance

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

The turning point came, the day I learned to accept our son John’s inability to attend school or to live a functioning life.  His life had become dysfunctional because of school bullying.  I shared some of the backstory in Bullying & Beyond… Painting the pain, part three.

Learning to accept his dysfunction as a result of bullying, was a slow process but it was the catalyst for change which allowed him to break free of his dysfunction and move forward with his life.  I shared that in Bullying & Beyond… “Acceptance”, Love & Time.

Our daughter Emma also suffered at the hands of bullies and sadly we are, to this day, still dealing with the aftermath.

It has been a struggle to stay strong and be resilient.  It was often one step forward and two steps back.

But yesterday I remembered the power of acceptance and I let go resistance.  I see yesterday as two steps forward and one step back and that is progress, it is a sign of change to come…

Let me try to explain…

We attempted to drive to Newbridge to visit Newbridge Silverware’s Doris Day exhibition.  You might like to learn about this wonderful event here… https://visitnewbridgesilverware.com/doris-day

We got half way there when Emma could no longer contain her anxiety.

Yesterday was our second attempt, the first attempt we achieved about a third of the journey so yesterday there was progress.

But the biggest progress for me was remembering my ‘acceptance‘ of John’s dysfunction, thanks to the reminder of my Psychologist to let go ‘resistance,’

I was able to make peace with this event and love Emma for herself.  She did her best. We did our best. We sat in our car, in a service station, having a coffee while Emma took a short walk and some air.  We made peace with the situation.  We were truly grateful and expressed our gratitude for that time, that moment, having coffee, having family time, living life to the best we can.

We turned for home with no regrets or upset or shattered expectations but with happy hearts and later last night, Emma announced that she wants to try again next Saturday!

This exhibition means a lot to Emma.  She adores Doris Day and that entire era.  She is training her dog, named ‘Doris’ after Doris Day, to be the first recognised Psychiatric Assistance Dog in Ireland.  She is pushing politicians to recognise this existing EU law, in Ireland.  It is a slow process. I would love you to give her some support as she shares her IG account at dorismakesmyday.

I shared some of Emma & Doris’ backstory in Petition please support…Bullying & Beyond… Painting the Pain, Part II

If you are relatively new here, thank you for reading.  Thank you to my regular readers for your comforting presence as we journey and learn life lessons together.  Your company makes all the difference.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

Bullying & Beyond…Moving Forward with Hope…

 

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

This is a photo of  Emma and Doris taken in the run up to Christmas

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Doris has grown quite a lot in the past few months…

but so has her amazing mum Emma…

Emma shared her photo to her Instagram account.  Emma’s growth from this journey is evident in what she wrote about being relentlessly bullied in school…

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If you have experienced school bullying or your children have or are being bullied, don’t despair, there is always hope and because we’ve been there and have grown from our experience, we know you too can find peace and move forward with hope!

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

 

 

Bullying & Beyond…Defining Cyber-bullying

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

In Ireland, the Department of Education & Science, (DES) gives clarification on what constitutes bullying using social media:

Placing a once-off offensive or hurtful public message, image or statement on a social network site or other public forum where that message, image or statement can be viewed and/or repeated by other people will be regarded as bullying behaviour’ (DES 2013: 9).

In contrast, one-off incidents of negative behaviour, such as isolated hurtful text messages and private mails, which cannot be viewed or repeated by other people, are not considered to be included under the  definition of bullying.

The fact that the internet provides anonymity can have particular consequences
for cyber bullying. Being able to act and communicate anonymously online removes
some of the deterrents that would help prevent children from getting involved.  The fear of negative consequences is lessened for the perpetrators and it increases the psychological distance between them and their actions.  The perpetrators can therefore refuse to take responsibility for their actions.  In most cases, cyber-bullies know their targets, but their targets don’t always know the identity of their cyber-bullies. This can lead to children and young people being suspicious of, and alienated from, all their peers.

The fact that the distinction between bystanders and active participants can be
less distinct in the context of online bullying also makes cyber bullying more difficult to
deal with than traditional offline bullying.

The bystander effect refers to incidents where an individual in need of help is not assisted by an onlooker because the onlooker assumes that someone else will intervene.

Responsibility for bullying often goes beyond the person who creates and posts harmful content online. Sharing, or commenting on content on social networking websites or joining, subscribing or following online sources of content
intended to humiliate or harm individuals can also be considered bullying behaviour.

I hope you found this post helpful and that you feel confident in defining what cyber-bullying is and what cyber-bullying is not.

 

Source #UP2US Anti-Bullying, Teachers’ Handbook, Junior Cycle, SPHE

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I recommend you check out the “Let’s Fight it Together” video.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

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