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Bullying & Beyond…1.Take Heart!

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

I’m not a professionally qualified counsellor or expert on bullying but I am a mother who has gained knowledge and experienced of bullying through the lives of our two children.

I have as part of my Degree in Adult Education studied the Psychology of Adult Education and Counselling in Adult Education and found both of these extremely helpful in understanding and coping with the situation we found ourselves in.

Our journey through bullying and its after effects spanned two decades (2002 to 2018) and as a result I’d like to offer my support to other parents who struggle with the impact of bullying on their children.

In these posts I’ll try to share some insights we’ve gained. My first…

1.  TAKE HEART.

If your child is suffering the effects of bullying and if it is having a negative impact on every member of your family, try to remain calm and show a capable front.  I know how upset you feel.  I know that the last thing you can comprehend is that it will all work out just fine.  But trust me… with determination to support your child, and by practicing self-care, you will reach a place of peace and progression!

I know because we were there and now we’ve reached that place of peace and progression and learned a lot as a result.  My son summed up his journey through bullying in a nice quote;  you can read about it here…Bullying…”I am grateful for it all”…

I hope you find this helpful. And I hope to write more on the subject of bullying.

Have you or your children experienced bullying?  Is bullying still an issue for you or have you reached a place of peace and progression? Please feel free to share your experiences, it could help inform other parents, provide comfort or encourage somebody else through the distress of bullying.

Much love,

Marie xx

Just One Minute Monday…Trust!

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Even the morning sun takes time to reach everything!

 

Just trust that the things you don’t reach on today are not necessarily vital things and that the people you don’t reach on today will understand and continue to appreciate you just as you are.

Much love,

Marie xx

Just One Minute Monday (6).

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Just look at how resilient you are, holding strong to the very last.   But don’t be afraid to let go…  Letting go also takes strength!

Much love,

Marie xx

My wish for you today…

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My wish for you today… is that you, like me, find the greatest adventures in the simple things, like having a car picnic or watching the wind scattering leaves like confetti, across your lawn!

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In what simple things do you find the greatest adventure?

Much love,

Marie xx

Just One Minute Monday (4).

Today I’m taking a minute to savor the feeling of warm summer air on my skin.  Have you ever paid attention to what warm air feels like on your skin?

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Shur I have Spain at home!

We are having temperatures that are way higher than average for this time of year. We’ve had some days reach 30 degrees. This is our hottest summer in 100 years. I don’t think I can ever remember wearing summer clothes for so long. This is so out of the ordinary for Ireland. Our summer’s are usually a few days of sunshine mixed with cooler rainy days. A blue sky without rain-clouds is a rare sight! I can’t remember ever feeling our house so warm indoors, from early morning to last thing at night. Our windows and doors are flung open trying to generate a draught. Cooking over a hot cooker is a big no-no! I’ve never eaten so many light, healthy salads. We are eating breakfast and supper outdoors and it’s even too warm to eat dinner outside, we have to eat inside.

The warm air feels so healthy on my bare arms, my freckles are multiplying and I can’t stop looking up at the bright, cloudless blue sky thinking “Shur i have Spain at home!” I feel carefree!

How does warm air and blue skies make you feel?

Much love,

Marie xx

Just One Minute Monday (3).

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Recently while on holiday, I practiced my ‘Just One Minute Monday’ as we walked to the shops for our groceries.  My son and his girlfriend were walking in front of me, the shops were a ten minute walk each way.  The average temperature from 10am to 8pm was 30 degrees.  It wasn’t an easy walk in that heat. I’m not into counting steps and I don’t own a step counter but lots of people exercise now by counting their steps and increasing the number of steps they take daily.

I thought about the amount we walk everyday and particularly the pace we have become accustomed to.

I wondered how often do we actually slow down our steps?  Have you ever even noticed how fast you walk? Do you constantly rush from one task to the next?  Because I was on holiday I paused and focused on my steps.  I slowed down my steps. I noticed the inclines and the declines.

I listened to the sound our steps made.  I felt my heart rate slow its pace.  I felt grateful for those moments, those steps I was able to enjoy in the company of two young adults.

When have you last paid attention to how fast you walk?  Have you ever deliberately focused on your steps?  Maybe today is the day to focus one minute on your footsteps.

Much love,

Marie xx

Just one minute Monday…

Today I’m spending the day relaxing on Inch Beach in the beautiful County Kerry. Inch is just one of many amazing spaces along the Wild Atlantic Way.  You can check it out here…

https://www.discoverireland.ie/Arts-Culture-Heritage/inch-strand/91730

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5km of beautiful beach…Inch Beach, County Kerry.

 

Today is a public holiday, part of the June Bank Holiday and we have fantastic temperatures between 22 and 25 degrees.  You can check out Met Eireann here…

https://www.met.ie/forecasts/munster

And in the middle of all this beauty and relaxation I’m taking one minute to be really grateful and mindful of this beautiful weather.  It has been a long winter and a sunny day lifts everybody’s spirit!  It’s heart-warming to hear conversations and laughter blowing on the breeze and to see families spending time together, outdoors, soaking up the sun, building sand castles and swimming or surfing in the sea.  It also brings back many fond memories of holidays spent on the beach with our two children when they were young.

What might your Just one minute Monday be?

Much love,

Marie xx

 

 

Just One Minute Monday!

I’ve decided to take just one minute of quiet time. Just one minute to pause. It’s been a busy day and my energy reserve is low.

I’m going to look around me and be grateful for where I am and what I see. I’m going to be grateful for what I managed to achieve today even if it wasn’t what I had hoped to achieve.

I might focus my thoughts on somebody I love or somebody I haven’t been in contact with in a while. I might think of you, my blogging friends. I might think of a deceased loved one. Or maybe I’ll focus on a favourite quote or recite a mantra.

The 60 seconds will provide time for a little quiet space within a busy day.  I’d love you to take just one minute with me today.  Maybe we can make “Just One Minute Monday” a regular weekly habit.

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Paws (pause) because you can!

What do you do to take just one minute of quiet time?

Much love,

Marie xx

 

Remember to Forget…

Remembering to forget is probably one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

Whether it is that you need to…

Forget that they weren’t there for you,

Forget that they didn’t understand,

Forget that the system failed you,

Forget that they told you that you needed to be more resilient,

Or

Forget that they didn’t think before they spoke unhelpful words…

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Emma’s little piece of handiwork, a new-found talent. Being lost in flow is a great way to forget about having to remember to forget!

 

Just know that you were good enough as you were and that likewise it was also the best they had to give at that time.

Accept the situation as it was and look deep inside to adapt and improve yourself.  Don’t live on your expectations of them…

Enhance your now…remember to forget.

Just forget!

Much love,

Marie xx

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