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The Power is yours… Quote No. 11 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.11 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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This quote is particularly relevant now more than ever.  Don’t be afraid to “Honour and remember those you love in your way.”

We are a country with a long-standing tradition of showing our respects in remembering our deceased relatives, neighbours and friends. However, Covid19 restrictions have caused funeral traditions and services here in Ireland to change.

Now only a limited number of family members can attend a funeral wake and mass now.  That could limit a funeral size to ten or twenty family members only.

Relations, friends and neighbours have started forming a socially distanced line along the road side leading to the church or graveyard instead.  These changes are difficult for all concerned.  Respect how others cope with these changes.  Allow other to honour and remember those they love in their way.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

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The Power is yours… Quote No. 23 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No. 23 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

 

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I’m feeling very grateful to have had the opportunity yesterday to take part in an Adler Cafe with the Adlerian Society UK Institute for Individual Psychology (ASIIP).

The topic we discussed was that of Encouragement asking how and why people might be discouraged at the moment?

We spoke about the importance of not going inwards in ourselves but to keep outward looking, showing concern for others and also showing ourselves empathy.

We noted the need to care for ourselves first in order to be able to care for others.  Caring for others can have an uplifting effect on our own mental wellbeing.  A sense of belonging keeps us connected.

We also considered how we can nurture encouragement and help people flourish during the challenges of Covid19.

Some responses included,

Tapping into our strengths

Reinforcing the strengths we see in others

Giving people space

Keeping focused on our priorities

Focusing on what’s within our control

Talking in positive ways about fear

Acknowledging those fears and accepting them, helping to normalises them

Finding ways to defuse fear and lead back to encouragement

Volunteering where possible

And of course the important role of humour.

We also discussed the importance of taking responsibility, facing up to the possibility of our own mortality or that of close relatives by having the difficult conversations about death.  Putting a plan in place so other family members know our health care and/or funeral wishes.  This can save a lot of upset when somebody becomes critically ill.

How and why might you be discouraged at the moment?

How can you Encourage Yourself  Encourage Others?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine. (If you would like your own copy of Anne’s book send your enquiries to info.devinepublishing@gmail.com)

 

The Power is yours… Quote No.77 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.77 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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Sadly because of the impact of Covid19 there is a greater possibility that we will “..meet someone who has suffered a huge loss in their life..”  That loss may take many forms such as the loss of loved ones, loss of livelihood, loss of motivation or mental wellbeing.  And maybe we will be better aware and “have the courage to stand in the silence beside them.”

I wish you the gift of self-peace for Easter and the courage to share your peace with others!

Stay safe, stay well.

I will be in touch again after Easter on Tuesday 14th of April.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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Connected or corrected…

Today a father and his little son were walking along a quiet street approaching a corner.  The little boy, about three years old, made a dash away from his father towards the corner of the street.  We were driving towards the same corner.  My husband had already anticipated the possibilities and slowed down, well below the speed limit.

I saw the father of the little boy suddenly react. He ran a few steps and grabbed his son by the arm, just at the edge of the path.  He aggressively jerked his son’s little arm a number of times, loudly chastising him as we drove past.  I thought about how many times I had near misses when my children were young and I could hear my heart beating loudly in my ears.

This child had done something wrong, but he is a child and still learning.  The mistake he made could have meant he was seriously injured or even worse, had he actually dashed off the street and onto the road in front of our car.

I thought about who needs to be corrected here.  Nobody trains us to be parents.  After fourteen years in school we leave without any training or qualification in childcare.  But when a parent walks along a quiet street with a three year old child, and pays more attention to their phone screen than to their child, then it’s not the child that needs to be corrected!

So, if you have a near one with your child, think about who needs to learn from the experience and if you’re ready to jump in and chastise your child, think about what message you are giving them…

Instead, I encourage you to calm yourself. Kneel down to their height, hug them to you, tell them you love them.  Then look them in the eye and tell them about the fright you got, talk about the rules of the road and about the danger of dashing off the path onto the road and then sit back and think…

Thank your lucky stars that you are still a parent…

and that you still have time to enhance your parenting skills…

because no matter how much attention you give your phone screen…

Google, Ecosia or any other search will not take away the heartbreak or show you how to bring your little son back to life.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

Reblog from Short Story…as if you need a reminder to love those around you completely!

You told me you were a cleaner in Ardkeen hospital. One of many parts of your life that you revealed. Your husband was a security man. I knew him and he looked tired and sad. Then you told me about how Ardkeen hospital could be so, so busy. Ambulances coming and going. Blue lights spinning […]

via The God of Coincidences. — Short Story

Cavity…an empty space within a solid object.

via Daily Prompt: Cavity

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I went to my monthly writing/poetry, open mic club last Friday night. There were about twenty men and women gathered to share their work, be it short stories or poems or if they wished they could read the work of an author of their choice.

We always have time for a chat before the event and again at the tea break. Everybody seemed upbeat and chirpy despite January being a dull cold month and dismal after the efforts of Christmas.

I was about fifth to read my two short, up-beat memories. But the majority of the stories could have been themed under depression, regrets, greiving for loved ones or upsetting childhoods.

The majority of participants, although they looked solid and presented a brave front, hid their gaping, aching cavity very well until it was their turn to share their stories…when their pain and tears caused rivulets of sorrow in my heart.

So, on Friday night last, I realised how important it is to think long and hard before you think the person next to you has it easy…for in this case they grieved the passing of a mother over twelve months ago, a sister over Christmas, a husband recently lost to suicide, the death of a loyal and faithful dog and a lost childhood…

So, consider the possibilities and above all… be patient and kind!

Much love,

Marie xx

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