I now know what I did not know back then, back in the summer of 2016, when I first tentatively decided to put my thoughts and words out there by creating a blog; I now know that I was looking for something more in my life, I was searching for a sense of purpose, I was unfulfilled and lonely.
Starting my blog, Create Space, has made a difference to my life. Being part of our online community, reading other blogs and sharing some of my writing whether from the daily prompt or other random ideas has helped me to find my voice; a voice that I now know was silenced because of the bullying endured by both our children. Blogging has helped rebuild my confidence while also building my writing practice. It has helped me realise, thanks to all the bloggers I’ve connected with in the comments section, that all of us have so much to offer each other!
Over the next few posts I would like to share quotes and writing tips from one of the most influential and informative books on writing that I have read, that book is…
‘Writing Alone and with others.’
Pat Schneider says,
‘We are all connected to one another and to the mystery at the heart of the universe through our strange and marvelous ability to create words. When we write, we create, and when we offer our creation to one another, we close the wounds of loneliness and may participate in healing the broken world. Our words, our truth, our imagining, our dreaming, may be the best gifts we have to give.’
If you are looking for something more in your life, searching for a sense of purpose, feeling unfulfilled and lonely then reach out, blog, share the best gifts you have to give and connect with others!
For almost 19 years I have had to haul fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue around with me. Some days you haul yourself out of bed and the whole day is like hauling yourself up a mountainside. Other days it’s like trying to see through the dense fog that covers that mountainside and it makes your brain function feel like it’s caught in a time-lapse photography project.
But stay positive because there is a plus side! There is a valuable haul of learning that comes from an invisible illness… Never again will you make the assumption when you look at someone that their live is perfect because you know how it feels to be told how great you look despite barely holding it together in either or both body and mind. Similarly when somebody tells you their struggles, you will be well placed to really empathise because you know what it is to struggle. Or when someone tells you they are their own worst enemy or that they struggle to accept their illness, you will be well equipt to understand and having learnt some tips and tricks that eased the journey, you are only too happy to share them if it can ease someone else’s struggle.
So you decide…will it be something you begrudgingly haul with you
Will you treasure your valuable haul and put your learning to good use?
Our daughter is called Emma and I have learned a lot from being a parent to her and her brother. Likewise the recent Storm ‘Emma’ which saw us trapped; although thankfully forewarned by MET Eireann, in our home for three days has also taught me a lot. It thought me how time is relative. It taught me that if I slow down, time slows down. It taught me how to Savor time…let me try to explain.
How often do you stop when you are cooking and savor the dish you are preparing? If you are anything like me, you probably stop at each stage of the cooking process. You wonder if the dish is good enough. You take time to sample it and you consider the taste. You ask yourself is it tasty enough? You wonder can you enhance its flavour a little more?
Similarly I believe, if we pause at any given moment in our day and apply the same strategy we can sample and really taste the beauty of that moment! Better still we have the power within us, to enhance the beauty of our moment, our lunch time, our day.
Create space in your life and make this moment ‘your’ moment. Pause and sample this moment in time. Let everything else wait…. just breathe… just be… listen to everything and everyone around you. Be still… be aware of yourself; breathing, sensing, existing, thriving in this very moment. Notice time slowing down; pausing with you.
Stay with the moment and watch yourself living in ‘your’ moment, as if you were a kindly friend looking on, observing. Acknowledge with gratefulness your presence in ‘your’ moment. Appreciate your place in the beauty of ‘your’ moment…savor its stillness. Promise to visit and sample ‘your’ moment again soon… it will get easier… now with renewed spirit and a sense of childlike wonder return to the job in hand!
What will you sample today? What moment will you call ‘your’ moment?
Shelley at Quaint Revival nominated me for a blogging award a while back but like I said it takes me a while to get my response together!! Shelley, is relatively new to blogging and has overcome her apprehension of going grey, being over 50 and using technology. She shares gems from everyday life and amazing photos too! You can check out her blog here
Just like in my last post on Blogging Awards I’m again bending the rules and responding but not responding at the same time. It’s was a lovely feeling to be included in Shelley’s 11 nominees and I’d like to thank Shelley for considering me and my blog Create Space as worthy of nomination.
What struck me about this award nomination was the imaginative questions Shelley asked and I felt that after all her effort to create these questions, I should at least answer them!
Questions from Shelley:
1.If you were forced to run out of the house right now and could only grab 2 things, what would you grab?Without hesitation I would grab my husband & children…(not by their hair mind!)…you see, possessions don’t bother me. I’m lucky to live in a comfortable home but I could turn my back on possessions at a minutes notice…family is everything!
2.If you were on the board of WordPress what would your top 2 suggestions of ‘change this now’ be?1. I would give bloggers the opportunity to select the most humorous and fun blogger’s post daily for Discover. 2. I would ensure that the Discover team interact with bloggers in the comment section, encouraging discussion and facilitating learning.
3.What was happening the moment you last laughed until you cried?Myself and my husband were in a novelty photo booth at my cousin’s wedding, posing for crazy photos!
4.Imagine that you’ve been asked to give a speech about your life story, you don’t know who is in the crowd, you’re standing at the podium waiting for the curtains to open, they open up and you look out at the audience and see the perfect crowd – what age group would they be and why? 1-9 year-olds; 10-17-year-olds; 18-30-year-olds; 31-60-year-olds; 61-100-year-olds.My perfect audience would be the 18-30 age group mainly because I wish somebody had told me at that age a few of the things that I know now! How much easier life would have been!
5.If you couldn’t write blogs, what would you choose to do to express your creativity?I’d bake homemade tasty treats and I’d hold tea and talk sessions all around the world!
6.If you could bottle up your favorite moment forever, what moment would it be?Every morning when I awake my fibro/fatigue’s negative thinking says “Oh no…I have to get up and I have to do this, that and the other… and I can’t possibly function”… but my favourite moment is when my hard-earned and still learning POSITIVE THINKING overrides it saying “No! I don’t have to do…I’m blessed and privilleged that I GET TO DO…” and because I’m so blessed to have so many other favourite moments everyday, if i was to bottle all of those I’d need a brewery to store enough bottles!
7.If you were given the opportunity to meet the creator of a techno-device that you used to use, (one that now has been replaced with a new and improved version), what creator and device would it be?It would have to be the creator of the tape recorder and tape cassettes as they played a huge part in my teenage memories and my use and love of music to enhance my rural teenage life!
8.Do you learn more from regrets or opportunities?I’m a fan of gratitude and living in the moment…so regrets are not something I often have and I believe we make our own opportunities!
9.What are your top 2 tips for a person thinking about starting a blog? Firstly I’d say, don’t think about it…just do it today, if you wait until the perfect time…you’ll be waiting! Secondly make sure you are enjoying whatever you post about and also enjoy and learn from other bloggers’ posts.
10.Are you at a point in your blogging life that you’ve found your voice?I think my voice is perfectly good for who I am today and I feel it is more than what it was a year ago and I know without doubt that my voice will have changed and flourished even more by this time next year!
11.Stand in the middle of the room you’re in right now, close your eyes, spin around 3 times. Steady yourself, open your eyes, describe the first item you see in 6 words (only 6 words)! The first thing I see is… family…….and that’s easy to describe…it is love, welcome, kindness, laughter, support and possibility!
If any of Shelley’s questions resonate with you please let me know! I would love to hear from you.
“Famous last words” a witty phrase that is used in response to various remarks and means words that are soon proved to be wrong.
I’d like to invite you to… think back to your last words. Were they words you are proud to stand over? Are you proud of the message you communicated or with the benefit of hindsight could they be words that soon proved to be wrong?
Our words, when said in haste or without thought for the receiver, can HURT.
It may be too late in some cases to undo the hurt…but it is never too late to realise that ‘sure we all say things‘…is not a good enough excuse!
Of course we don’t always set out to HURT with our words but once hurtful words are uttered…the outcomes are far-reaching and can have a ripple effect!
Don’t doubt it! Our words hold POWER!
Our words can affirm and encourage or sadly they can emotionally and psychologically wound. I’d go as far as saying they can, in some cases…destroy!
Maybe today is a good day to become more aware of the powerful position we hold in the growth (or not) of those around us.
I say let’s warm each other with our words!
William Henry Seward, architect of the Alaska Purchase, was asked if he had any final words. He replied, “Nothing, only ‘love one another.’”