You can see I’m tiny but it doesn’t stop me…
Do what you can within the boundaries of your limitations… and then do a tiny bit more!
Socks & Marie xx
Last night I caught myself…not in the nick of time, but certainly in time to reduced my time in the ‘Sin Bin!’ You might wonder whether I am a rugby player but I can confirm that is certainly not the case!
When I say ‘Sin Bin‘ I am referring to being caught up in an upsetting incident or any emotional state where suffering is happening.
Here’s an outline…Last night I made an assumption that ‘somebody’ was going to do something for me to support me. I expected them to be there for me.
So I was shocked when I didn’t get the support I expected. I got a ‘No’. And oh boy, my child-self jumped at the chance to act up! I went silent and I sulked. I gave out a little too. I opted for an early night in bed; to run away from the problem…but as I was preparing for bed thankfully I realised,…I became aware…that I had made an assumption of support. I hadn’t asked in plain English for what I needed. The fractured communication meant that ‘someone’ was not fully aware of what I needed. As a result they had made alternative plans. I realised, that just as I had a right to ask and expect…they had an equal right to say ‘No’ and expect a mature acceptance.
Thankfully by realising; by becoming aware, I got myself out of the ‘Sin Bin‘ after a short period of time. I saved myself a lot of emotional upset and physical pain. I remember back to a previous post where it took a long time suffering before logic returned. If you wish, read about that learning journey here Wise or otherwise?
I am so grateful that I have grown and learned from that experience. I am grateful to constantly be developing my awareness. I am grateful to be reminded of the importance of clear communication.
Realising that although I am there a lot for ‘someone,’ doesn’t mean they have to be there for me and if I only give of myself expecting a return then that’s not true, unselfish giving. That is conditional giving…giving on condition of a return!
I hope you found my reflection helpful. I would love to hear your comments or any experience where you grew in awareness.
Consider your inner child… your child-self that has got you to where you are today, through the good and the bad!
It’s time to show your child-self the love and appreciation they deserve. Shower them with an abundance of love at every opportunity. Listen to them when they are sad or angry, they have an important message they want you to hear. Be gentle and kind in how you talk to and treat yourself… this impacts your child-self. Encourage your child-self to relax, to make time for fun and leave their worries about your future in your capable adult hands.
Now just sit back, be patient and watch yourself flourish!
Just trust that the things you don’t reach on today are not necessarily vital things and that the people you don’t reach on today will understand and continue to appreciate you just as you are.
My wish for you today… is that you, like me, find the greatest adventures in the simple things, like having a car picnic or watching the wind scattering leaves like confetti, across your lawn!
In what simple things do you find the greatest adventure?
It’s hard to believe it’s been almost two years since I wrote and tentatively shared my first post about a conversation with a rather unique taxi driver. If you have a chance please read it here… Attitude & Altitude
That post set me up as a ‘Blogger’ and after taking part in my first Adlerian Psychology Summer School Workshop, I wrote about having “Confidence” and if you’d like to learn a little more, you’ll find it here…Confidence
Well, now fast forward almost two years and I’m still here scribbling my thoughts, sharing my feelings and finding answers.
I’ve also taken part in two more Adlerian Summer School Workshops with the ANI (Adlerian Network of Ireland), read about their work here… ANI Clonmel, Ireland and I can without doubt say that together with all the roles any woman juggles on a daily basis, the combination of those and connecting with others through Adlerian Psychology, WordPress Blogging and my work as an Adult Education Tutor have changed my perspective to one of positivity and gratitude and have helped me flourish.
So, I can hardly believe it when, what was merely a dream of mine when I first heard of it last summer, is now about to transpire!…
I have the opportunity to travel to Bonn, in Germany to take part in my first ever ICASSI programme next week. I am beyond delighted and still slightly in disbelief to have been successful in my application for an Erasmus, (a culture & character building programme) through my employer Tipperary Education & Training Board! Information on TETB here… TETB
ICASSI is the International Conference of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes and is the umbrella body of all Adlerian Networks around the world. To say I am excited would be a gross understatement!! 😃🎁!
Actually if I am honest, I am both excited and nervous about this week long trip of personal & professional training programmes. I am travelling solo, not knowing of anyone else travelling from Ireland. When I get there I don’t expect to know anybody either, bar one of the Psychologists (who all give of their time voluntarily to deliver the workshops), namely Karen John, learn about Karen here… Karen John
Karen was my first mentor at my first workshop and she helped me gain new insights which have changed how I belong and become in this world!
My health has been troublesome since Easter but I am hoping the now daily ventricular ectopics and arrhythmia behave themselves until I return home, when I have a Consultant’s review arranged. I’m also very aware of the need for self-care to pro-actively manage my fibro/fatigue by having regular mindful moments (similar to my Just One minute Monday posts) and using my 3 P’s of Pacing, Prioritising and Planning. Or maybe I should change that to 4 P’s and truthfully add Procrastinating!
And so, as I go about my one day today and in a week’s time head away to Bonn I know I have all I need to flourish and thrive in Adler’s Crucial C’s and if you’d like, you can read about them here…Crucial C’s
So time and energy permitting I hope to post some updates along the way! If you have time please feel free to share your thoughts, I’d love your company! If you know of anybody attending please pass this on to them as I hope to get to know some really nice people.