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A reminder to… Create Space!

I love this reminder from lovetheloa which I found on Instagram.

Don’t be afraid to Create Space for yourself today!

The Power is yours… Quote No. 35 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.35 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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I think the key word here is “your.”  Don’t try to live your life to somebody else’s expectations or level of ability.

Have the courage to be imperfect and remind yourself that courage develops of the back of trial and error.  Courage means pushing yourself onwards in spite of the fear you feel.

How will you live your life to the best of your ability today?  How courageous do you feel?  Share what gave you courage in the past.
Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No. 40 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No. 40 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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‘Thank you,’ two simple words that are often not so simple to say.  Sometimes we brush off a compliment rather than acknowledging it and saying thank you.  Sometimes we have the best of intention but being busy or complacent, we neglect saying thank you for a kindness received.  Remember “A simple thank you is all that is needed.”

Thank you” for your visit and company today!

When have you struggled to say thank you?
Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No. 45 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No.45 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

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Our beautiful weather of the past few weeks was such a blessing.  We enjoyed many meals outdoors.  The best temperature we noted was around 18 degrees, as nice as an average summer’s day.  But that weather has changed to much cooler, 7 to 12 degrees and showery.  There is a feel of winter back in it again.  I’m challenging myself to find the positives in it, such as the freshness of the air after a heavy shower.

What positives are you noticing about today’s weather where you are?
Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

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The Power is yours… Quote No. 49 “Encourage Yourself Encourage Other”

Quote No. 49 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.

 

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We are all learning to accept the imposed boundaries of lockdown. Some of us are finding it easier than others.  Now might be a good time to consider if the boundaries we have in our own lives are helpful or if they could do with being revised.  It takes courage and maturity to “Accept that what others do is their business.”
Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

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In the Face of Fatigue…and Pandemic

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If Doris can face it so can we!

 

To all who struggle with this pandemic or any chronic illness, this is for you, just know you are never alone, you are in the best of company…

 

It crumbles like sand
Overcome by a wave

Stealing your inspiration

Or your power to investigate.

Physical tasks must be trimmed
Right down to the quick,

Mental tasks tease,

Like a shadows in the sun
Now you see me…

now I’m gone!

So quickly it fades,
From functioning… To falter,
What felt like a good day or good hour,
consumed and usurped,
Leaving you literally stranded in the midst of stuff!
It dehydrates your thoughts,
It punctures and deflates,
She has you caught
Laughs and knows she’s fine,

while she has you there,
Then leaves you short
Refusing to repay the debt.

So does it defeat you
Steal from you and
Rob you blind?
Or can you befriend it?
Mould and adjust it?
Even a little at a time?

Well, those are questions you pose
And repose, numerous times each day,
As you show up to a
Battle that could go either way!

And is there an answer
To this piece of arithmetic?
Is there is vacination
That can do the trick?

Well the answer is as fickle
As the ego, when it’s in full play
And it defies all logic
On any given day!

Sadly it’s more complex,
As it’s catching in your breath
And the answers
at best, are really hit and miss!

Some discovered and uncovered
Are a chumley mix of tricks
Such as

Pause… and take a moment, to simply catch your breath…

And with dire warning…

Never, ever, use the words…

‘I expect’…
“Rest,” my Da would say…
“Hold your horses, sweet Marie”

Now I recall his kindness
and cherish his request

I dismount & recoup
Heeding his bequest!

Then like a flame rekindling,
Though; not as quickly as it faded
With a streak of determination
You saddle up again…

A dawn of inspiration seeps in slowly, like the morning sun
And brings with it a power, to investigate anon and

With a steely determination
So worn and battle weary,
You acknowledge your, position or condition
And face the day quite cheery!

And with the wisdom of any moment, being yet again undone
You accept what you can
And leave the rest…

unsung!

To all who struggle with this pandemic or any chronic illness, this is for you, just know you are not alone, we are in the best of company!

Le grà,

And with warm Irish hugs!

Mindfully Marie xx

Bullying & Beyond…Improve your Listening Skills!

 

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

In my previous post…Bullying & Beyond…2.Really Listen!…I wrote about the importance of Listening.  When somebody, be it a child or an adult, is distressed as a result of bullying, just having somebody who is willing to listen to them can make a huge difference to how they feel.  Your first reaction may be to rush in and immediately solve everything but instead be patient and listen.

Here are some simple tips I found helpful,

1.Acknowledge your child’s emotional state -say that you can see how upset, angry etc., they are.

2.Remove or resist any distractions.

3.Make sure you can clearly hear what your child is saying.

4. Focus your attention and concentrate.

5. Be patient, listen to the whole story.

6. Make encouraging, agreeable sounds to show you are paying attention…’mmm,’ ‘I see,’ ‘oh right’.

7. Avoid making judgements – take time to consider before offering solutions.

8. Ask questions to clarify.

9. Keep an open mind.

10. Summarise or sum up what you heard, ‘so the main problem was’ or ‘if I understand properly you feel…’ to let them know you understand exactly.

Remember to pay attention to their tone of voice and observe their body language, which can give you insights or hidden messages which they may not be able to voice.

If you agree on any particular course of action or efforts to address the issue, be sure and follow through.  Listening needs to be followed up with action, even if it’s only arranging follow-up conversations.  If you fail to follow-through, your child may get the impression that what they have confided in you, just goes in one ear and out the other.

For any victim of bullying, building and maintaining trust is so important and this can’t happen unless you stick to your word.

I hope you find this helpful.  Please feel free to share any experience you have had which would have benefitted from active and effective listening.

Alternatively please share some effective approaches you have used. I would love to learn what worked for you.

Much love,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

Bullying & Beyond…Acceptance & Resistance

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

The turning point came, the day I learned to accept our son John’s inability to attend school or to live a functioning life.  His life had become dysfunctional because of school bullying.  I shared some of the backstory in Bullying & Beyond… Painting the pain, part three.

Learning to accept his dysfunction as a result of bullying, was a slow process but it was the catalyst for change which allowed him to break free of his dysfunction and move forward with his life.  I shared that in Bullying & Beyond… “Acceptance”, Love & Time.

Our daughter Emma also suffered at the hands of bullies and sadly we are, to this day, still dealing with the aftermath.

It has been a struggle to stay strong and be resilient.  It was often one step forward and two steps back.

But yesterday I remembered the power of acceptance and I let go resistance.  I see yesterday as two steps forward and one step back and that is progress, it is a sign of change to come…

Let me try to explain…

We attempted to drive to Newbridge to visit Newbridge Silverware’s Doris Day exhibition.  You might like to learn about this wonderful event here… https://visitnewbridgesilverware.com/doris-day

We got half way there when Emma could no longer contain her anxiety.

Yesterday was our second attempt, the first attempt we achieved about a third of the journey so yesterday there was progress.

But the biggest progress for me was remembering my ‘acceptance‘ of John’s dysfunction, thanks to the reminder of my Psychologist to let go ‘resistance,’

I was able to make peace with this event and love Emma for herself.  She did her best. We did our best. We sat in our car, in a service station, having a coffee while Emma took a short walk and some air.  We made peace with the situation.  We were truly grateful and expressed our gratitude for that time, that moment, having coffee, having family time, living life to the best we can.

We turned for home with no regrets or upset or shattered expectations but with happy hearts and later last night, Emma announced that she wants to try again next Saturday!

This exhibition means a lot to Emma.  She adores Doris Day and that entire era.  She is training her dog, named ‘Doris’ after Doris Day, to be the first recognised Psychiatric Assistance Dog in Ireland.  She is pushing politicians to recognise this existing EU law, in Ireland.  It is a slow process. I would love you to give her some support as she shares her IG account at dorismakesmyday.

I shared some of Emma & Doris’ backstory in Petition please support…Bullying & Beyond… Painting the Pain, Part II

If you are relatively new here, thank you for reading.  Thank you to my regular readers for your comforting presence as we journey and learn life lessons together.  Your company makes all the difference.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

Bullying & Beyond…the challenges?

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

I have been writing on the topic of bullying since late last year and I greatly appreciate all the support, encouragement and insightful feedback and comments which I have received to my Bullying & Beyond posts!

In order to access the most up to date information available on bullying and gain some insights and understanding of the Government’s education policy regarding the prevention of bullying,  I decided to join a blended learning programme being offered by NABC; the National Anti Bullying Association of Ireland, entitled Bullying Prevention & Intervention Online Course for Teachers.  It is a ten week online programme which also includes two face to face sessions in DCU, Dublin City University, St Patrick’s, Drumcondra, in Dublin.

And so, I would like to invite you to share your thoughts with me and in doing so, help me inform my answer to the first question we have been posed…

What do you think are the greatest challenges teachers face when dealing with bullying behaviours?

I look forward to your thought provoking responses!

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie

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