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Flashback Friday… ‘Sin Bin’

Last night I caught myself…not in the nick of time, but certainly in time to reduced my time in the ‘Sin Bin!’  You might wonder whether I am a rugby player but I can confirm that is certainly not the case!

When I say ‘Sin Bin‘ I am referring to being caught up in an upsetting incident or any emotional state where suffering is happening.

Here’s an outline…Last night I made an assumption that ‘somebody’ was going to do something for me to support me.  I expected them to be there for me.

So I was shocked when I didn’t get the support I expected. I got a ‘No’.  And oh boy, my child-self jumped at the chance to act up!  I went silent and I sulked. I gave out a little too. I opted for an early night in bed; to run away from the problem…but as I was preparing for bed thankfully I realised,…I became aware…that I had made an assumption of support. I hadn’t asked in plain English for what I needed.  The fractured communication meant that ‘someone’ was not fully aware of what I needed.  As a result they had made alternative plans.  I realised, that just as I had a right to ask and expect…they had an equal right to say ‘No’ and expect a mature acceptance.

Thankfully by realising; by becoming aware, I got myself out of the ‘Sin Bin‘ after a short period of time. I saved myself a lot of emotional upset and physical pain.  I remember back to a previous post where it took a long time suffering before logic returned. If you wish, read about that learning journey here Wise or otherwise?

I am so grateful that I have grown and learned from that experience. I am grateful to constantly be developing my awareness. I am grateful to be reminded of the importance of clear communication.

Realising that although I am there a lot for ‘someone,’ doesn’t mean they have to be there for me and if I only give of myself expecting a return then that’s not true, unselfish giving.  That is conditional giving…giving on condition of a return!

I hope you found my reflection helpful. I would love to hear your comments or any experience where you grew in awareness.

Much love,

Marie xx

Friday Flashback…Thank you and “Welcome” old friends and new!

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I read and follow quite a few blogs and I find it hard to believe that just two years on from my first post I have penned or typed over 200 posts!

When I started I had just a few visitors and it was such a buzz to have someone add a like or better still a comment!

Now I have a few more visitors and coming to know you has been so interesting. I’ve really enjoyed your company over the past few weeks while I’ve been on sick leave from work. Thankfully I’ve been feeling a little better the past few days and I am hoping to return to work next week.  Your visits while I’ve been at home have helped lift my spirit and your comments have been so encouraging!  To thank you I thought you might like to engage in a little bit of time travel this Friday and maybe if you find it enjoyable you’ll travel back in time with me again next friday.  I thought a link back to a little piece of me before we came to know each other might help us get to know each other a little better!

This week it’s  Welcome to ‘Create Space’

So you might well ask, has my perspective and life changed… Well that’s a big YES!  I’ve come a long way from when I first started blogging. I’ve learned to live in the moment more, I’m enjoying the journey, fitting in some new experiences and I’m definitely less concerned about the destination.  Your comments have widened my perspective and helped me be true to myself.  I’ve finally allowed myself lowered my mask and I’ve learned to let myself just ‘be’.  Thank you all for your wise insights which helped me do just that!

Now what about you? Has the last two years changed your life? Do you value the journey over the destination? Have you stopped to consider if you are further than you think? Please feel free to leave me a comment below and share any thoughts you have. I promise to reply as quickly as I can.

Much love,

Marie xx

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