Guess who fed his curiosity…
Guess who fed his curiosity…
If you arrived home on Friday and felt like this…
I hope you’ve made time to do something you enjoyed, something just for you and that you are refuelled now and ready to face the week ahead!
How did you feel? How do you feel now?Please share what worked for you?
Mindfully Marie xx
When I look back on the past year or two of blogging and consider this particular post, PRIVILEGE…
I feel even more privileged than I did back then. I feel privileged because I’ve come to know myself better by sharing my thoughts and feelings.
I’ve gained some new and life changing perspectives from insightful comments received from you wonderful bloggers.
I feel really privileged because an unexamined life is like a broken circle or a half circle, you think there’s a piece missing. I’m slowly realising that I am a full circle, I’m seeing that the pieces were there all along, just out of view! I’m enjoying this process, this unique journey and I’m no longer worried about who I will become because I am, I already am!
Do you feel privileged? What makes you feel privileged? Has your view of privilege changed in the past year or two?
Last month I travelled to Bonn for ICASSI 2018, (learn a little more about ICASSI here.)
I got this opportunity after applying for one of a limited number of places on an Erasmus programme offered by my employers. I had been hoping, like a real live blogger, to post some updates while in Bonn but my internet connection didn’t live up to my expectations. I’m home almost a month and I’ve been unable to concentrate long enough to pen my thoughts because I’ve been paying and still am paying the price in CFS/FIBRO currency for the huge amount of energy I expended during the wonderful yet demanding week at ICASSI but I wouldn’t have it any other way. However, thanks to insights from Adlerian Psychology, one of which is having the courage to be imperfect I can accept that a post just over a month later is not perfect but is instead perfectly imperfect. It is good enough, I am good enough and I hope you find it good enough and if not, well that’s ok with me too!
I travelled alone to Bonn, and I didn’t know anybody there except one of the faculty, Karen. I found it a little intimidating heading into the registration area on the evening I arrived. Everybody appeared to know each other, there was an exciting buzz that was upbeat and friendly, yet I felt like an outsider.
As soon as I had my name badge on and a cup of tea in my hand I mingled about. I knew I just had to call upon my courage and do my best to connect with others.
I soon discovered that so many people, from all over the world, have either been to Ireland or are curious about Ireland. I sat down beside a young Asian lady, who was on her own. It turned out that it was her first time at ICASSI also. She came looking for me at tea break a day or two later, asking to take a selfie together and thanking me for talking to her that first evening as she had been feeling lonely and apprehensive in her new surroundings. Reaching out to encourage others takes courage too but it’s definitely worth the effort.
If you were energetic and wanted to partake in an exercise programme, then your day began at 7am. If not you could start your day at 9am, like me, with a Plenary session which was a one and a half hour presentation with power point delivered in English and translated into German or vice versa.
Tea break was from 10.30 until 11am and morning classes started promptly at 11am until 1pm. Lunch was available on site if you wished.
I usually walked back to my hotel to grab a quick siesta following my lunch. This helped recharge my battery for the afternoon classes which started promptly at 2pm until 4pm.
When afternoon class ended there was then the option to attend short presentations from 4.45 to 6pm at which time dinner was served. There was a vast canteen area and plenty of outdoor seating which was so welcoming in the warmth of the evenings and provided ample opportunities to talk to lots of interesting and like-minded people. Coping with the heat was challenging as it ranged from 31 degrees on Monday to 40 degrees celcius on Wednesday. Thankfully a thunder storm and lots of rain on Thursday saw temperatures drop back around the early 30’s which dare I say felt managable! Bear in mind 25 degrees is considered a scorcher of a summer’s day in Ireland and quite rare!
There was ample opportunity for socialising every evening and on Monday, Wednesday and Friday an evening programme of entertainment started at 7pm and included a German Night, a talent show and a closing ceremony. There was a lovely bar where we gathered to relax over a drink or two and there was always someone happy to sing or play a guitar!
There were many different courses to choose from and I decided to participate in two short courses, instead of one long programme. I chose Cooperative Problem Solving and Encouragement in Stressful Situations. These courses were delivered using an Adlerian approach which is based on respect and social interest. Working in small groups was a great way to get to know some of the participants better.
I’ve come away from my first ICASSI with so many beautiful memories which include lots of conversations, laughter, fun, cultural insights from participants from 35 countries, renewed awareness of the importance of community, lots of new friends and promises of e-mails, a fantastic approach to cooperative problem solving and strategies from BASIC PH to encourage myself and others through stressful situations. Looking back now it really was A New Book…a beautiful one!
Thank you for reading and sharing in this experience with me!
I’d love to hear your comments or answer any questions you have.
You owe it to yourself to cultivate your dreams. You don’t have to start out big…just begin.
Small children grow into great adults and similarly if small projects are tended with the same love and kindness, they too grow beyond measure!
Did you cultivate your dreams lately? Have you seen them blossom? Can you share any tips that worked for you?
A mentor is someone who educates or offers support and advice and is usually an older person.
Something special happens when you find a good mentor – they don’t just spot your errors and failings and tell you how to improve…
No, a good mentor knows that your thoughts, behaviour, work, class exercise or assignment is your best effort at this moment in time. But they know how to build upon those foundations and help you reach your full potential.
A good mentor has a generous spirit and they enjoy pointing out all the things you are doing right. Their aim is to help you acknowledge your strengths and learn to believe in yourself. They know that along the way you just forgot how to trust in yourself.
When the time is right an experienced mentor knows it’s time to step back. They don’t want you to become dependent on their support. They don’t need your dependency to buffer their self-esteem… No, the very opposite is the case, they enjoy letting you take the driving seat. They know their job is done! They believe in your ability and can see you are ready to step confidently outside your comfort zone and achieve your full potential!
Isn’t parenting, being an employee or a colleague, being a sister, being a cousin, being a friend…being alive and just living your day, just amazing…Isn’t it the best mentor and look at what it can teach you!
P.s. Thanks for taking time out to stop in to visit. Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.
I now know what I did not know back then, back in the summer of 2016, when I first tentatively decided to put my thoughts and words out there by creating a blog; I now know that I was looking for something more in my life, I was searching for a sense of purpose, I was unfulfilled and lonely.
Starting my blog, Create Space, has made a difference to my life. Being part of our online community, reading other blogs and sharing some of my writing whether from the daily prompt or other random ideas has helped me to find my voice; a voice that I now know was silenced because of the bullying endured by both our children. Blogging has helped rebuild my confidence while also building my writing practice. It has helped me realise, thanks to all the bloggers I’ve connected with in the comments section, that all of us have so much to offer each other!
Over the next few posts I would like to share quotes and writing tips from one of the most influential and informative books on writing that I have read, that book is…
If you are looking for something more in your life, searching for a sense of purpose, feeling unfulfilled and lonely then reach out, blog, share the best gifts you have to give and connect with others!