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Daily Prompt: Allergic reaction!

via Daily Prompt: Allergic

There are remedies for allergic reactions…

(Antihistamines are drugs which treat allergic reactions and can give relief when a person has nasal congestion, sneezing, or hives because of pollen, dust mites, or animal allergy. Wikipedia)
If only there were remedies which treat our sometimes unquestioned allergic reaction to human beings we see as being ‘different’ to us, whether it is in gender, colour, race, or religious beliefs!
Or maybe we pride ourselves on being non-judgemental yet stand by in silence when a friend, relative or colleague is not so open-minded.
Imagine how healthy it would be to be allergy free and see all human beings as an extension of ourselves!
I’ve found so many blogs where people open up and share their struggles without the fear of judgement here on WordPress…let’s cause a tidal wave,
let’s pay it forward into every social media platform and every interaction we have today!
We can make a difference!
Much love,
Marie xx

 

Probably the best Christmas present to give yourself!

To All Nursing Students, including my own: If I were to assign any homework this weekend it would be to take a break. 10 minutes at a time. 5 times a day. Because you have all worked exceptionally hard the past two weeks. And a good rest is half the work. Although things may not […]

via Work hard. Rest. Repeat. — Thriving Under Pressure

I JUST HAD TO SHARE THIS GREAT ADVICE from Dr.D for all paths in life, step back, pause, recoup and learn to CREATE the balance as “Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create”. Otherwise we will never find it, be given it, buy it or borrow it!

What will you do today to CREATE balance in your Saturday?

To ‘DO’ or to ‘BE’…now that’s a good question for Black Friday?

What a great post for Black Friday! Emotionsoflife2016 certainly got me thinking!

Just take a moment to consider…are you a ‘DOer’ or do you try to simply ‘BE‘?

I think it’s not easy to simply ‘BE‘ I think DOing can be easier.  Would you agree?

I think we often busy ourselves ‘DOing’ things to avoid ‘BEing’ there for ourselves or others. Have you ever made yourself busy ‘DOing to avoid thinking about the challenges or issues you have faced?  Well I certainly have!

Maybe the BEST BLACK FRIDAY commodity we could invest in is…

Taking time to ‘BE‘…
BE ourselves; BE gentle and kind to ourselves and others,

BE truely present; BE in the moment with ourselves and with others, giving of our undivided attention,

BE kind; think before we speak, say a kind word and avoid words that restrain or disempower ourselves or others,

  • then our ‘DOing’ will truly ‘BE‘ special, empowering and transformative!

SPEND TODAY WISELY!

I would love you to stop in and share your thoughts with me. I guarantee a warm Irish welcome!

Marie x

 

 

“The Way to do is to be.” ― Lao Tzu Indeed!!! WE must DO before we can BE. I am curious to read what you guys have to say about this quote, and don’t forget to read the “Tao Te Ching” Stay bless and thank you for your continues support, LOVE YOU ALL. Leave […]

via Philosophy #159 — emotionsoflife2016

At the MERCY of…

 

Everyday is a lottery and I think we win that lotto each and every time we open our eyes to face a new day.  Now we all know there are no givens in life and some days are tougher than others so…

if your day didn’t go to plan today, take heart…

because you are in charge of your thoughts and you are at the MERCY of…no one, not one single person, only yourself! Be kind to yourself, hug yourself, you are your best lotto!

Merci! Thanks for reading!

 

Marie x

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…in a scramble

via Daily Prompt: Egg

I’m taking a risk in the name of fun! However, nobody likes a bad EGG so I could end up with EGG on my face…

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EGG…soft or hard boiled, fried or scrambled

EGG on..to encourage…especially to do wrong!

EGG O…the conscious mind (I must be out of mine)

EGG O centric…self-centred (me, no never!)

EGGs aggerate…represent as greater (well maybe a small bit!)

EGGs alt…praise highly (reminder to self…self praise is no praise)

I’d best let this EGGs spire… before I

EGGs asperate you!

Thanks for reading this “yoke”

Marie x

 

Reflection is key to learning! For what it’s worth these are my thoughts on this thought provoking post. Check out Alyssa’s insights at Fightmsdaily’s post.

 

Alyssa’s post is hugely reflective and full of introspection. She reflects on ‘boundaries’ and ‘acceptance’ two topics which influence us daily. I think her post will be so helpful to anyone who beats themselves up and do not accept that they are good enough as they are.

It sounds like she has gained great insights about herself by taking time to look back over recent events. Life is full of boundaries. Speed limits and recipes, for example, all have boundaries for our safety and welfare. Exceeding these might be exciting and sometimes bring personal growth but they can also have consequences.

While on an introductory course to counselling skills I took away one ‘gem’…that was ‘Awareness is key’.

Learning to know your own body and then really as Alyssa says ’embrace and accept’ it as doing its best is not an easy place to reach but her post tells of that new level of awareness. It’s not a cop out, it’s not lazy, it’s ok to function within your capability and not try to be somebody else. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help, it is the very opposite in fact, a sign of strength, self-respect and self-care. When we truly know ourselves and allow ourselves to be ourselves, then we really can empathise with and support others! Thanks for a thought provoking post Alyssa! Much love, Marie x

We all need a day that we sleep in and then continue to rest for an entire day! Today is my day to do all of that. I actually sleep in this morning, well until one of my precious cats decided it was a good time to jump in my face to wake me up, […]

via Very Restful Saturday! — Fightmsdaily

‘STUCK?’…Mark Twain and Nelson Mandela had it sussed!

If like me, the thing you find hardest is taking the first step and getting started, and if you find an endless amount of other unimportant little jobs to divert you away from the main task of your day or of your hour, then take heart…

I have your corner, I know how it feels! We feel… stuck and there can be any amount of reasons; such as tiredness, feeling stressed, inability to focus, feeling overwhelmed, but lean on the wisdom of Nelson Mandela and Mark Twain

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they have obviously been through this very same struggle and guess what?

They figured it out, they have it sussed!
Go on…together we can do it!

Let me know what had you ‘stuck‘ today and how you overcame it!

Much love!

About me…

Today it was time… I decided to update my profile. If you have patience, bear with me…I like talking…but I didn’t realise I had so much to say!…

Hi… failte (Irish for welcome! and pronounced fall-thhha).

I’m a relative newbie to blogging, being here just over a year, but what an insightful year it has been!

I’ve turned the corner to 50 recently and two things become more relevant…time and experiences!

Material possessions are less important! Using time wisely and truly experiencing each day holds a new significance for me!

The challenges I’ve experienced in my short life have shaped me into who I am today. But to take on new experiences and challenges I have to balance my health; as I have fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue, with my desire to achieve as much as I can!

Some days I feel normal, like yesterday, a day where I’m temped to do more, like preparing lots of cooking apples to make 4 apple crumbles and 3 apple tarts and shared them around my family. But by evening I was done for… only now I don’t beat myself up anymore, instead I accept that it’s ok!

However, today might be the very opposite, feeling drained with an unshakeable tiredness or worse still brain fog that wrecks any hope of sustained concentration… Trouble is it is unpredictable, so planning anything is next to impossible!!

But if you wish to read on…, a little of the back story…

I’m blessed to be married to a kind and loving man for 28 years. Now, don’t be fooled! We have had good and bad days but we are still here!… and we have two children now almost 19 and 21.

I worked as a legal secretary for 23 years but in December 2007, approaching 40, I was searching for something more. (Obviously the decades are problematic for me, 40 a mini mid-life crisis and now 50 a paring down of possessions and a search for connections and experiences).

So back to 40, whilst holding down my then part-time legal secretarial work for another 4 years and working in adult education, I decided to train as a voluntary adult literacy tutor, with the hope of helping adults improve their literacy skills and have a second, and better experience of learning!

However, little did I think that wanting to help others improve their lives would see my own life improve beyond measure also!

You see for years I found it difficult to know what to do as I watched our two children suffer at the hands of bullies. Finding the right support was next to impossible and stress and fibromyalgia are not good friends but that struggle only began to change when I returned to education myself! By becoming a student I slowly gained valuable knowledge, I grew in confidence and self-esteme and built my stamina step by step!

After six years of part-time study, part-time work, juggling family commitments and constant exhaustion, I was thrilled when, in 2014 aged 47 to have experienced college for the first time in my life and felt proud of my achievements! I obtained a Higher Certificate in Literacy Development and a B.A. in Adult Education. I have worked with adults in a learning environment almost everyday since January 2008 and I love my work as an adult educator, particularly when adults trust me enough to let down their defences and ‘let me in’, so I can help them by getting to know what makes them ‘tic’ and ‘lights their fire!’.

As an added bonus along the way I’ve realised that I also have a love of writing and that writing is cathartic (providing psychological relief through written expression of built up emotions), both for my students and myself. This blog enables me to pursue that new-found interest and I’ve really enjoying reading your blogs, sharing comments and gaining new perspectives. I also like to share any little ‘gems’ of learning I’ve gathered along the way!

But best of all drawing on my learning with Waterford Institute of Technology and The Adlerian Network of Ireland including the work of Alfred Adler and the crucial ‘C’s’…and of course the amazing Carl Rogers and his belief in the power of unconditional love, empathy (walking in someone else’s shoes) and congruance (being yourself)…

I realise…just like I have found in my classrooms… that…

I am ‘CONNECTING’ with so many warm, fun loving and supportive people!

I realise I ‘COUNT’, I am valued and that my thoughts and opinions matter.

I am feeling ‘CAPABLE’ realising that I can achieve and make progress whether I am ill or not.

And finally thanks to all your kind and encouraging comments I have the ‘COURAGE’ to try out something new, to face the challenges, to make mistakes and fall down, to shrug it off and knowing I won’t be harshly judged I can simply start again!

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Thanks for helping me realise again, like in my classrooms that it is all possible…and that together we write a truly better story!

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Much love,
Marie x

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