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Bullying & Beyond…An exciting future!

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

With a new goal in mind, I’ve had to reluctantly decide to refrain from writing new blog posts, for the immediate future.  To keep my blog active I am instead going to re-run my existing posts.

I’ve had to come to this decision so I can dedicate time to my writing project.

I am in the process of compiling my Bullying & Beyond posts into a book.  To give adequate time to this project I have to be proactive in managing my health (due to the challenges of living with CFS/Fibromyalgia, as anyone living with a chronic illness will understand).

I’ve really appreciated your constant company while I shared my Bullying & Beyond posts.

Your friendship, encouraging comments and shared experiences have played a huge role in helping me overcome the pain of supporting our children through school bullying and has enabled me to reclaim my voice and write about our experience. I am so grateful to all of you for this gift!

If you would like to share any information about supports available in your area or if you would like to research any bullying prevention and intervention resources that are relevant to where you live I would be delighted to hear from you and look forward to your participation.

I hope you will continue to keep me company and continue to share your thoughts with me.  I will of course reply to any comments received!

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

Feb, 2020.

This was my first post in my Bullying & Beyond series…Bullying & Beyond…Take Heart!

Bullying & Beyond…a viral effect

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

Learning to use the Internet safely is an important skill.  Making children aware that anything they share, can be copied by taking a screenshot or a photo of it, and shared with people they never intended to see it.  Parents and teachers can make opportunities to talk to children about online photo sharing and how easily it can get out of hand.  Children benefit when they become more responsible in their photo sharing practices.

Try this exercise and talk to your children about the result you discover!

1. You have a photo        =          1 photo

2. You share it with just 20 pals    1 x 20 = 20 shares

3. That 20 share with 20 pals   20 x 20= 400 shares

4.These 400 share with 20 more = 8,000 shares

5. 8,000 share with 20 pals = 160,000 shares

6. 160,000 share with 20 more = 3,200,000

7. 3,200,000 share with just 20 more friends =

64,000,000

Within a very short period of time, the ONE photo you shared has been viewed and shared 64 million times.

This is called a viral effect because the photo has spread like a virus… luckily you were proud of the photo and you chose to share it!

Imagine if the opposite was the case!

What if you hated the photo or it was a nasty message posted by a bully and you were embarrassed by it?

Imagine if it was shared without your consent!

How would it make you feel?  Discuss with your children how individuals can deal with being bullied, or what they can do if they know that others are being bullied or if an individual is being the bully.  Remind children of the definition of cyber bullying…

“Placing a once-off offensive or hurtful public message, image or statement on a social network site or other public forum where that message, image or statement can be viewed and/or repeated by other people will be regarded as bullying behaviour.”

Anti-Bullying Procedures for Primary and Post primary Schools (2013, 2.1)

Source adapted from MySelfie and the wider world.

Have you or your children ever shared an image and been surprised by the attention it received?  Has cyber bullying been an issue for you?  What emotions were involved in that cyber bullying situation and what strategies did you develop to help you or your children cope effectively?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

Father Figure: Free Kindle Download from 2/10 thru 2/14 — This Is My Truth Now

Father Figure is a FREE download from 2/10 thru 2/14 – help yourselves! Thank you so much for your support in sharing, downloading, reading, and reviewing. I appreciate it! Download @ http://mybook.to/FatherFigure Overview of Father Figure Between the fast-paced New York City, a rural Mississippi town and a charming Pennsylvania college campus filled with secrets,…

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Bullying & Beyond…You can make a difference

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

The following “Tips for a better internet together” offers some very practical advice which I’d encourage parents and guardians to discuss with their children.  These simple tips could make a big difference to someone who is experiencing bullying.

“1. Reach out to someone you know is being bullied.  A simple message of support, a like, or a smile can be enough to give hope to someone who feels alone.

2. Include someone you see being isolated.  Invite them to sit with you at lunch, include them in a chat, share jokes with them.

3.  Make a clear statement that you think bullying is unacceptable and not just another part of growing up.  Sharing or liking anti-bullying messages on social networks is a simple way of doing this.  You might even go further and create your own.

4.  Say ‘No’ or ‘Stop’ when you see someone behaving unfairly.  Standing up takes real courage but not doing it is the same as giving your permission for someone to be bullied.

5.  Get help from an adult if you think that standing up to a bully might put you at risk of being hurt or becoming the next target.  You might not always be able to fix things without putting yourself at risk, but you can always do the right thing – and that means getting help.  In fact telling a parent or teacher is usually the moment when the situation stops getting worse and starts being dealt with.

6. Report it.  All good schools and clubs have ways for you to report bullying incidents.  Find out what they are and use them.  You can also click the report abuse button on websites like Facebook and Twitter.  They all have to take reports seriously and remember they won’t reveal the identity of the person making the report.

7.  Don’t bully back no matter how angry you feel.  You should never accept bullying but don’t cross the line and bully the bully.  It’s ok to point out that the bullying should stop but it’s not ok to send abusive messages in retaliation.  It makes it more difficult to get help from your school.  They might even end up punishing you too.”

Source: http://www.webwise.ie

MySelfie and the wider world

Webwise Primary Anti-Cyber Bullying Teachers’ Handbook

What advice do you give your children if they see someone being bullied?

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

Reblog…Useful Well-being Apps — Improve My Well-being

There are many different ways to improve our well-being. Apps provide a convenient and accessible alternative for those who are on the move or simply prefer interactive technology over more traditional methods. With so many well-being ideas out there where do you start? Below are seven of my favourite tried and tested low cost or […]

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If we want to change for the better something has to change and this might be a good place to start…

New Year, New Goal… Saving Money in the New Year — Simply Chronically Ill

OK, so I am not officially back blogging yet, but I did want to take a moment to announce that for the month of January I have lowered the price of my book, Frugal Seeds 501 Ways to Make, Save or Stretch a Dollar, in both print and ebook form. This book shares many […]

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Yesterday I wrote about “501” followers, you can read that post here Write for One or 501…

Today Wendy’s post caught my eye because she mentioned “501” ways to save money and at a reduced price.  Some great tips to start the New Year & New Decade!

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

Bullying & Beyond…Moving Forward with Hope…

 

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Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.

 

This is a photo of  Emma and Doris taken in the run up to Christmas

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Doris has grown quite a lot in the past few months…

but so has her amazing mum Emma…

Emma shared her photo to her Instagram account.  Emma’s growth from this journey is evident in what she wrote about being relentlessly bullied in school…

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If you have experienced school bullying or your children have or are being bullied, don’t despair, there is always hope and because we’ve been there and have grown from our experience, we know you too can find peace and move forward with hope!

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

 

 

 

Present…the best present…

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Emma was fully present, lost in flow as she created this gingerbread house, a replica of our home and I just love it!

 

Present

P… for present, being present, living in this very awesome moment with the conviction that any struggle lived in the moment before, is now dead and gone and any pain in the moment ahead, is but an illusion…
R…for reality, creating your unique reality, living your dream, accepting nothing less, appreciating the dreams of others even if they could never be your dream
E…for evolving, changing, growing, mindful that to remain static is not an option
S…for senses, trusting your senses, feeding them with experiences not possessions, not needing to be anything or anyone but yourself
E…for encouraging others, seeing the best in them, challenging them to see their own capabilities
N…for nature and nurture, learning from nature, changing like it changes with the seasons, nurturing your soul and noticing your creativity and spirit evolve as a result
T…for taking time to practice gratitude, thankful for significant others, thankful for coming to know yourself, thankful for being fully and amazingly present… the best present.

I hope you receive the best present this year.

Le grà,

Mindfully Marie xx

 

Reblog – Ideas for a Green Christmas — Deborah Lee Luskin – whether you’re American or any other nationality!

I’m dreaming of a green Christmas, one where instead of discarding 38,000 miles of ribbon – enough to tie a bow around the equator – Americans consider the environmental impact of their gift giving, gift wrapping, and holiday celebrations. It’s possible to make the winter holidays both festive and green. Here are some ideas. Make…

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