Hi... failte (Irish for welcome! and pronounced fall-thhha).
I'm a newbie to blogging, here just over a year, but what a great year it has been!
I've turned the corner to 50 recently and two things become more relevant...time and experiences!
Material possessions are less important! Using time wisely and truly experiencing each day holds a new significance for me!
If you wish..., a little of the back story...
I''m blessed to be married to a kind and loving man for 28 years, we have two children now 19 and 21.
As I approached 40 and searching for something more, whilst holding down my then part-time legal secretarial work, I trained as a voluntary adult literacy tutor, with the hope of helping adults improve their literacy skills and have a second, and better experience of learning!
However, little did I think that wanting to help others improve their lives would see my own life improve beyond measure also!
You see for years I found it difficult to know what to do as I watched our two children suffer at the hands of bullies. Their struggle began to change when I returned to education! Through education I slowly gained valuable knowledge, I grew in confidence and self-esteme and it had a ripple effect!
By 2014, aged 47 I had completed a Higher Certificate in Literacy Development and a B.A. in Adult Education. I love my work as an adult educator, particularly when adults trust me enough to let down their defences and 'let me in'. Then I can help them by getting to know what makes them 'tic' and what 'lights their fire!'.
As an added bonus along the way I've realised that I also have a love of writing and that writing is cathartic (providing psychological relief through written expression of built up emotions), both for my students and myself. This blog enables me to pursue that new-found interest and I've really enjoying reading your blogs, sharing comments, getting to know so many people and gaining new perspectives. I also like to share any little 'gems' of learning I've gathered along the way!
Thanks for sharing your stories and for helping me realise that it is all possible...and that together we write a truly better story!
The 3rd book in the Braxton Campus Mysteries series is on sale for only .99 cents from 5/20 thru 5/24. You can download it to your Kindle here. This book was released on March 30th, 2019 and has been getting rave reviews from mystery fans all around the world. You can visit all the posts from…
This morning I’m not posting an Encourage Yourself Encourage Others post so instead I’d like to Encourage Others; Jay, at This is My Truth Now, because I find when I do something to Encourage Others it Encourages Me!
May is a big month. All of James J. Cudney’s books will be discounted for a few days at some point. This week, it’s Watching Glass Shatter, his debut 2017 novel about a family drama imploding from a bounty of secrets. Download the Kindle format here as it’s only .99 from 5/17 thru 5/21. Rumor has it…
Quote No. 23 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.
I’m feeling very grateful to have had the opportunity yesterday to take part in an Adler Cafe with the Adlerian Society UK Institute for Individual Psychology (ASIIP).
The topic we discussed was that of Encouragement asking how and why people might be discouraged at the moment?
We spoke about the importance of not going inwards in ourselves but to keep outward looking, showing concern for others and also showing ourselves empathy.
We noted the need to care for ourselves first in order to be able to care for others. Caring for others can have an uplifting effect on our own mental wellbeing. A sense of belonging keeps us connected.
We also considered how we can nurture encouragement and help people flourish during the challenges of Covid19.
Some responses included,
Tapping into our strengths
Reinforcing the strengths we see in others
Giving people space
Keeping focused on our priorities
Focusing on what’s within our control
Talking in positive ways about fear
Acknowledging those fears and accepting them, helping to normalises them
Finding ways to defuse fear and lead back to encouragement
Volunteering where possible
And of course the important role of humour.
We also discussed the importance of taking responsibility, facing up to the possibility of our own mortality or that of close relatives by having the difficult conversations about death. Putting a plan in place so other family members know our health care and/or funeral wishes. This can save a lot of upset when somebody becomes critically ill.
How and why might you be discouraged at the moment?
As this is ME/CSF Awareness Week, I’d like to share one of the best articles on Chronic Fatigue that I’ve read, with you. I hope it gives you new insights and therefore a new understanding of some of the aspects to this challenging health condition. A big thanks to Caz for all her efforts to describe a life lived with ME/CSF.
Quote No.24 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.
We are approximately two months into Covid19 Lockdown and the myriad of new challenges associated with it.
How do you “deal with what is,” what you are finding is your new, present day reality?
How do you avoid stressing about tomorrow or next week, the “what if?”
Please share any strategies that have helped you and anything you have learned as a result.
I’m learning to expand my Covid Coping Toolkit. A few things I’ve added include more meditation, more uplifting YouTube videos, replacing lost physical contact with online video chats via Zoom, more family time, phone calls, walks and more appreciation of bird song which is easier to hear now with less traffic where I live.
I’m also learning to stay grounded in the moment, just taking it one day or even one hour at a time. Sometimes there are challenging hours. Yesterday’s challenging hour taught me that there is a miracle waiting within each grievance, to teach us something if we are ready to listen.
Note to self..”I found the miracle! I became what Tolle calls the ‘watchful observer.’ I caught myself in the act. And it taught me to look at my reaction to the event, not the event itself. I realised that my reaction, which resulted in silence and resort to junk food during the grievance yesterday weren’t constructive choices. I’ve since spoken about it, pointed out how I felt. No blame, no bad feeling, no grievance! No pain! That is the miracle!
Quote No.27 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.
Isn’t it amazing when you stop to think about it? There are thousands of blogs and bloggers here, yet no two bloggers are the same or have the same voice. Each voice speaks to me in it’s own unique way! Do you agree? I know I have come to recognise so many wonderful, insightful, warm and entertaining voices. I hope you see yourself in my list! Embrace your unique self!
And as for flaws! Couldn’t we write a book on flaws and what a creation that would be! We all have flaws. Learning to embrace our imperfection is the gateway to possibility…