Quote No.39 from Encourage Yourself Encourage Others by Anne Devine.
The behaviour I find difficult is feeling ignored. Thankfully with each day that passes I am learning that I don’t need to feel ignored, I no longer want that feeling and I’m getting better at letting that feeling go.
I’ve also learned that when you learn how to find yourself you no longer feel isolated or lonely any more. You realise you have a unique voice and you feel empowered to use it.
Anne reminds us that “Nobody likes to be… talked about behind their backs.” Try today to catch yourself in the act of gossip. It is not a nice personality trait to have and observing this habit in yourself, is the first step to changing it. “Keep kindness to yourself and others high on your priority list.”
Here Mich of michnavs shines a light on gossip culture in the Philippines. A worthwhile read…
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good one Marie … Carolyn recently wrote a post about funny things she did with her family. So in my comment I told of a time my brother totally ignored me and how I got sweet revenge!
Now I’m very used to being invisible, people look right thru me … but that is their loss 🙂
Thank you for sharing!.. I usually follow my heart, not the fears in my mind, so the actions of others does not impact me a great deal..as for the gossip;
A tongue can accuse and carry bad news
The seeds of distrust, it can sow,
So unless you know the truth and only the truth
Be careful of stones that you throw.
(Larry “Dutch” Woller )
Until we meet again..
May your troubles be less
Your blessings be more
And nothing but happiness
Come through your door
(Irish Saying)
Kindness goes a long way, Marie. Treat others as you would have them treat me is my Golden Rule. Can you imagine a world that everyone respected each other? Being ignored is a terrible feeling and I am sorry you have experienced that. We all deserve respect and being treated as the unique person we are. Awesome post!! xo
Being Interrupted, for sure, is what bugs me most. Internally I process it as someone saying to me that no matter what I am concentrating on, it is less important than whatever they want to bug me about.
For sure it can say that Darren and it is frustrating when you are absorbed in somethinh or maybe it can say the opposite, that you have a level of ability/knowledge that they value and want to access or maybe it’s a way of gaining attention. I’m working on letting go the resistance and it’s borderline freaky how it erases the issues!
Varies between interruptors I think! My junior colleagues would describe me as extremely patient as they, like you say, want to use my experience to help them do their jobs. 😍
It might be worth looking at the personality of the interruptor, if that’s a trigger, or setting new boundaries or ramping up your assertiveness! 😉Thanks for sharing your thoughts Darren 😁
I, also, don’t like to be ignored though as I get older I seem to not care about this as much as I used to. What “gets my goat” is witnessing unkindness toward others in any form, gossip being a big one. It does so much damage to a person’s reputation and injures the psyche. Anyway, that’s my list. Happy belated Mother’s Day (it was celebrated in the US yesterday)!! 😁
I’m with you on the dislike of ‘unkindness towards others’ Brenda, particularly because of experience of bullying & gossip and the damage it causes. Thank you for the Mother’s Day wishes, belated is irrelevant, every day is a mother’s day! Ireland celebrated it a few weeks ago. Xx
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May 4, 2020 at 12:21 pm
Thanks Marie for the mention.
Gossip can be very damaging and it really annoys me to see people do despite of the awareness..and this upsets me the most
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May 4, 2020 at 1:11 pm
You’re welcome Mich! Gossip is upsetting and can destroy lives. X
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May 5, 2020 at 6:15 am
good one Marie … Carolyn recently wrote a post about funny things she did with her family. So in my comment I told of a time my brother totally ignored me and how I got sweet revenge!
Now I’m very used to being invisible, people look right thru me … but that is their loss 🙂
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May 5, 2020 at 8:47 am
A great attitude Kate, which I’m sure took time to accept! Xx
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May 5, 2020 at 9:25 am
no you just become immune after too much …
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May 5, 2020 at 2:16 pm
You direct your attention to more positive pursuits!
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May 5, 2020 at 8:46 pm
yes a great way to phrase it Marie!
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May 5, 2020 at 7:53 am
So very true! Be good and goodness will bounce back at you
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May 5, 2020 at 8:51 am
It certainly can’t hurt!
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May 5, 2020 at 4:03 pm
Thank you for sharing!.. I usually follow my heart, not the fears in my mind, so the actions of others does not impact me a great deal..as for the gossip;
A tongue can accuse and carry bad news
The seeds of distrust, it can sow,
So unless you know the truth and only the truth
Be careful of stones that you throw.
(Larry “Dutch” Woller )
Until we meet again..
May your troubles be less
Your blessings be more
And nothing but happiness
Come through your door
(Irish Saying)
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May 5, 2020 at 8:27 pm
Your poem really sums it up Dutch! Thanks for your visit and sharing your thoughts.
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May 5, 2020 at 11:12 pm
Kindness goes a long way, Marie. Treat others as you would have them treat me is my Golden Rule. Can you imagine a world that everyone respected each other? Being ignored is a terrible feeling and I am sorry you have experienced that. We all deserve respect and being treated as the unique person we are. Awesome post!! xo
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May 6, 2020 at 6:33 am
It sure does Amy and WP is a great place for it! We all have lessons to learn Amy, that was one of mine! I’m glad you enjoyed this! Xx
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May 8, 2020 at 4:34 pm
Being Interrupted, for sure, is what bugs me most. Internally I process it as someone saying to me that no matter what I am concentrating on, it is less important than whatever they want to bug me about.
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May 9, 2020 at 7:26 am
For sure it can say that Darren and it is frustrating when you are absorbed in somethinh or maybe it can say the opposite, that you have a level of ability/knowledge that they value and want to access or maybe it’s a way of gaining attention. I’m working on letting go the resistance and it’s borderline freaky how it erases the issues!
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May 9, 2020 at 12:05 pm
Varies between interruptors I think! My junior colleagues would describe me as extremely patient as they, like you say, want to use my experience to help them do their jobs. 😍
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May 9, 2020 at 4:24 pm
It might be worth looking at the personality of the interruptor, if that’s a trigger, or setting new boundaries or ramping up your assertiveness! 😉Thanks for sharing your thoughts Darren 😁
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May 11, 2020 at 11:34 pm
I, also, don’t like to be ignored though as I get older I seem to not care about this as much as I used to. What “gets my goat” is witnessing unkindness toward others in any form, gossip being a big one. It does so much damage to a person’s reputation and injures the psyche. Anyway, that’s my list. Happy belated Mother’s Day (it was celebrated in the US yesterday)!! 😁
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May 12, 2020 at 1:40 pm
I’m with you on the dislike of ‘unkindness towards others’ Brenda, particularly because of experience of bullying & gossip and the damage it causes. Thank you for the Mother’s Day wishes, belated is irrelevant, every day is a mother’s day! Ireland celebrated it a few weeks ago. Xx
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