
Learning to use the Internet safely is an important skill. Making children aware that anything they share, can be copied by taking a screenshot or a photo of it, and shared with people they never intended to see it. Parents and teachers can make opportunities to talk to children about online photo sharing and how easily it can get out of hand. Children benefit when they become more responsible in their photo sharing practices.
Try this exercise and talk to your children about the result you discover!
1. You have a photo = 1 photo
2. You share it with just 20 pals 1 x 20 = 20 shares
3. That 20 share with 20 pals 20 x 20= 400 shares
4.These 400 share with 20 more = 8,000 shares
5. 8,000 share with 20 pals = 160,000 shares
6. 160,000 share with 20 more = 3,200,000
7. 3,200,000 share with just 20 more friends =
64,000,000
Within a very short period of time, the ONE photo you shared has been viewed and shared 64 million times.
This is called a viral effect because the photo has spread like a virus… luckily you were proud of the photo and you chose to share it!
Imagine if the opposite was the case!
What if you hated the photo or it was a nasty message posted by a bully and you were embarrassed by it?
Imagine if it was shared without your consent!
How would it make you feel? Discuss with your children how individuals can deal with being bullied, or what they can do if they know that others are being bullied or if an individual is being the bully. Remind children of the definition of cyber bullying…
“Placing a once-off offensive or hurtful public message, image or statement on a social network site or other public forum where that message, image or statement can be viewed and/or repeated by other people will be regarded as bullying behaviour.”
Anti-Bullying Procedures for Primary and Post primary Schools (2013, 2.1)
Source adapted from MySelfie and the wider world.
Have you or your children ever shared an image and been surprised by the attention it received? Has cyber bullying been an issue for you? What emotions were involved in that cyber bullying situation and what strategies did you develop to help you or your children cope effectively?
Le grà,
Mindfully Marie xx
February 14, 2020 at 9:25 pm
very important information, thank you for sharing.
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February 14, 2020 at 9:41 pm
Thanks Wendi, glad to hear that!
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February 14, 2020 at 9:50 pm
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February 14, 2020 at 10:35 pm
a very important message to share and empower kids Marie 🙂
just been reading about catfishing where scammers use others photos to steal … the internet has blessings and blisters!
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February 14, 2020 at 11:34 pm
Thanks Kate, I’m more aware now of the importance of educating ourselves and our children on safety online and the need for parental responsibility! I like your term…blessings & blisters!
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February 14, 2020 at 11:42 pm
thanks Marie, just came out as I typed 🙂
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February 17, 2020 at 1:01 pm
Thank you for sharing!!.. unfortunately technology has given a certain element of world’s societies a voice…add to the fact that in an effort to become number one the developers of said technology ignored that voice allowing it to fester… something akin to a weed being ignored in the garden.. hopefully one day the voices of wisdom and love will drown out the other… 🙂
“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” ― Roy T. Bennett
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February 17, 2020 at 1:44 pm
Hopefully Dutch and every kind word shared here on WP is a step in the right direction!
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February 20, 2020 at 9:45 am
An eye opener, for sure!
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February 20, 2020 at 11:52 am
Thanks Mark!
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February 22, 2020 at 10:09 pm
Scary stuff. As always I am thankful it was not around when I was a kid.
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February 22, 2020 at 10:38 pm
Likewise Darren, life was easier back then, although proactive parents can set boundaries on phone use and access times. Cyber bullies can’t reach a child who doesn’t have access to a phone.
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February 22, 2020 at 10:45 pm
Very true!
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March 15, 2020 at 3:55 pm
This is vital info! All it takes is one shared photo to ruin someone’s life. Thank you for posting!
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March 15, 2020 at 5:58 pm
My pleasure! Thank you for reading and joining in the conversation Cherie.
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March 15, 2020 at 9:02 pm
You’re very welcome!
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May 5, 2020 at 7:33 pm
Hi my name is Amna, I am actually starting my own YouTube channel and for one of my videos I will be talking about bullying. I wrote an essay about a year ago and how it effects people’s lives so I will read that out loud. I was wondering if you would like to read this out loud in a video, and send it to me so I can include it after I have read my essay. I think it will really help people all around the world. If you say no that is ok I understand, but would it be ok if i read it out loud instead if you do not feel comfortable to do it. I will mention your blog name. And also thanks for writing this it really does make a difference 💞
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May 9, 2020 at 7:50 am
Hi Amna, I’m sorry for taking so long to reply to you. Do you have your YouTube channel set up? I would love to see your video and hear your essay. I would be delighted if you would share my post. Please do mention my blog and where I got the information from also which is important. Please let me know when you have shared your work. Well done on your blog. I will read more! Best wishes, Le grà, Marie x
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May 27, 2020 at 3:07 pm
This is a wonderful article for my grandchildren to read. It is also one that us adults should heed, because internet bullying has no age limit.
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May 27, 2020 at 8:53 pm
Hi Geri, thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. I agree that it important to educate ourselves on the advantages and disadvantages of the internet and particularly on cyber bullying.
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May 27, 2020 at 8:56 pm
The hardest thing about this type of bullying is that there is very little you can do, other than report it. Once the post is out, the damage is done.
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May 27, 2020 at 9:10 pm
That is so true Geri. There is a horrible sense of powerlessness that leaves a long term impact but there is always a better future, we know because we’ve been there.
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