Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.
The following “Tips for a better internet together” offers some very practical advice which I’d encourage parents and guardians to discuss with their children. These simple tips could make a big difference to someone who is experiencing bullying.
“1. Reach out to someone you know is being bullied. A simple message of support, a like, or a smile can be enough to give hope to someone who feels alone.
2. Include someone you see being isolated. Invite them to sit with you at lunch, include them in a chat, share jokes with them.
3. Make a clear statement that you think bullying is unacceptable and not just another part of growing up. Sharing or liking anti-bullying messages on social networks is a simple way of doing this. You might even go further and create your own.
4. Say ‘No’ or ‘Stop’ when you see someone behaving unfairly. Standing up takes real courage but not doing it is the same as giving your permission for someone to be bullied.
5. Get help from an adult if you think that standing up to a bully might put you at risk of being hurt or becoming the next target. You might not always be able to fix things without putting yourself at risk, but you can always do the right thing – and that means getting help. In fact telling a parent or teacher is usually the moment when the situation stops getting worse and starts being dealt with.
6. Report it. All good schools and clubs have ways for you to report bullying incidents. Find out what they are and use them. You can also click the report abuse button on websites like Facebook and Twitter. They all have to take reports seriously and remember they won’t reveal the identity of the person making the report.
7. Don’t bully back no matter how angry you feel. You should never accept bullying but don’t cross the line and bully the bully. It’s ok to point out that the bullying should stop but it’s not ok to send abusive messages in retaliation. It makes it more difficult to get help from your school. They might even end up punishing you too.”
Hi... failte (Irish for welcome! and pronounced fall-thhha).
I'm a newbie to blogging, here just over a year, but what a great year it has been!
I've turned the corner to 50 recently and two things become more relevant...time and experiences!
Material possessions are less important! Using time wisely and truly experiencing each day holds a new significance for me!
If you wish..., a little of the back story...
I''m blessed to be married to a kind and loving man for 28 years, we have two children now 19 and 21.
As I approached 40 and searching for something more, whilst holding down my then part-time legal secretarial work, I trained as a voluntary adult literacy tutor, with the hope of helping adults improve their literacy skills and have a second, and better experience of learning!
However, little did I think that wanting to help others improve their lives would see my own life improve beyond measure also!
You see for years I found it difficult to know what to do as I watched our two children suffer at the hands of bullies. Their struggle began to change when I returned to education! Through education I slowly gained valuable knowledge, I grew in confidence and self-esteme and it had a ripple effect!
By 2014, aged 47 I had completed a Higher Certificate in Literacy Development and a B.A. in Adult Education. I love my work as an adult educator, particularly when adults trust me enough to let down their defences and 'let me in'. Then I can help them by getting to know what makes them 'tic' and what 'lights their fire!'.
As an added bonus along the way I've realised that I also have a love of writing and that writing is cathartic (providing psychological relief through written expression of built up emotions), both for my students and myself. This blog enables me to pursue that new-found interest and I've really enjoying reading your blogs, sharing comments, getting to know so many people and gaining new perspectives. I also like to share any little 'gems' of learning I've gathered along the way!
Thanks for sharing your stories and for helping me realise that it is all possible...and that together we write a truly better story!
Much love,
Marie x
very wise advice, some I try to live by … I’m reknowned for stepping into dangerous situations when I see any type of violence or violation to people’s safety!
Thank you for sharing!!.. support is the key word, it gives the one who is bullied confidence and hope and it lets the bully know he/she is dealing with more than just the victim… 🙂
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel” Maya Angelou
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February 1, 2020 at 10:45 pm
very wise advice, some I try to live by … I’m reknowned for stepping into dangerous situations when I see any type of violence or violation to people’s safety!
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February 1, 2020 at 11:35 pm
Thanks Kate, it is a good resource! The world needs more people like you Kate! I wish we could clone you or share your approach!
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February 2, 2020 at 12:46 am
It has taken a lot of effort to get here, the calm, not protecting others … seem to have that inbuilt when I was born .. loathe injustice!
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February 2, 2020 at 8:41 am
You are living true to your values Kate and that’s when life is at its best. Hope you have a lovely Sunday. X
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February 2, 2020 at 10:59 am
a sweltering one thanks … too hot to do much 🙂
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February 2, 2020 at 5:21 pm
Thank you for sharing!!.. support is the key word, it gives the one who is bullied confidence and hope and it lets the bully know he/she is dealing with more than just the victim… 🙂
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel” Maya Angelou
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February 2, 2020 at 5:29 pm
True Dutch, support is key! Very apt quote too.
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