Time and the right conditions not only preserve but bring about something of beauty – Marie Clancy.
Did you know that everytime your child is bullied, it leaves a mark, physical, emotional or psychological
And did you know that everytime your child is bullied… so are you!
Everytime you seek support and fail to get the support you need for your child, you and your family are being bullied again through neglect and broken, dysfunctional systems.
Don’t stand by and let that happen. Trust your gut instinct. If it doesn’t feel right, then it isn’t right!
Don’t stop looking for and expecting solutions until you receive some. If you failed to find answers in the past, don’t beat yourself up or feel guilty, instead, keep in mind this quote “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better” Maya Angelou.
Now, refocus you efforts and more determined than ever, continue your search for answers.
Have you ever felt bullied because your child was bullied? How did it make you feel? Did you listen to your intuitive gut feeling and renew your efforts to find answers?
You may like to start your search to find some of those answers here on Create Space in my Bullying & Beyond series, here are two suggestions,
Hi... failte (Irish for welcome! and pronounced fall-thhha).
I'm a newbie to blogging, here just over a year, but what a great year it has been!
I've turned the corner to 50 recently and two things become more relevant...time and experiences!
Material possessions are less important! Using time wisely and truly experiencing each day holds a new significance for me!
If you wish..., a little of the back story...
I''m blessed to be married to a kind and loving man for 28 years, we have two children now 19 and 21.
As I approached 40 and searching for something more, whilst holding down my then part-time legal secretarial work, I trained as a voluntary adult literacy tutor, with the hope of helping adults improve their literacy skills and have a second, and better experience of learning!
However, little did I think that wanting to help others improve their lives would see my own life improve beyond measure also!
You see for years I found it difficult to know what to do as I watched our two children suffer at the hands of bullies. Their struggle began to change when I returned to education! Through education I slowly gained valuable knowledge, I grew in confidence and self-esteme and it had a ripple effect!
By 2014, aged 47 I had completed a Higher Certificate in Literacy Development and a B.A. in Adult Education. I love my work as an adult educator, particularly when adults trust me enough to let down their defences and 'let me in'. Then I can help them by getting to know what makes them 'tic' and what 'lights their fire!'.
As an added bonus along the way I've realised that I also have a love of writing and that writing is cathartic (providing psychological relief through written expression of built up emotions), both for my students and myself. This blog enables me to pursue that new-found interest and I've really enjoying reading your blogs, sharing comments, getting to know so many people and gaining new perspectives. I also like to share any little 'gems' of learning I've gathered along the way!
Thanks for sharing your stories and for helping me realise that it is all possible...and that together we write a truly better story!
Much love,
Marie x
It’s a sad fact Kate that detailed perscriptive policies exist but implimenting them in under-funded, over stretched systems makes these policies unworkable and it’s the innocent victim that loses out in the end.
and that ripples out into their family and community so everyone loses out …
then they may go to institutions eg prison or psych units and the govt will complain about the cost but forget that they were the ones who should have prevented this in the first place!
Thank you for sharing!.. unfortunately most in society tend to ignore issues unless it affects them directly in some manner… as the saying goes ” an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” and if more people would get interested and active in issues, a good number of issues would be resolved early… 🙂 dealing with bullying is like dealing with cancer, early detection to obtain a quick cure… 🙂
Have a wonderful day, and every day, with no bullying but filled with love and happiness… 🙂
Sad, mad, frustrated, angry, lonely, bullying can stir them all! I hope that by talking about it and sharing these thoughts together with excellent comments from bloggers that we can save some families from feeling this way!
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July 6, 2019 at 12:12 am
wow you’re are really calling it how it is … the systems are often the bigger bully yet I’ve no idea why we avoid calling that out!
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July 6, 2019 at 6:39 am
It’s a sad fact Kate that detailed perscriptive policies exist but implimenting them in under-funded, over stretched systems makes these policies unworkable and it’s the innocent victim that loses out in the end.
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July 6, 2019 at 7:27 am
and that ripples out into their family and community so everyone loses out …
then they may go to institutions eg prison or psych units and the govt will complain about the cost but forget that they were the ones who should have prevented this in the first place!
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July 6, 2019 at 4:50 pm
You said it! No logic at all.
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July 6, 2019 at 2:10 pm
Thank you for sharing!.. unfortunately most in society tend to ignore issues unless it affects them directly in some manner… as the saying goes ” an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure” and if more people would get interested and active in issues, a good number of issues would be resolved early… 🙂 dealing with bullying is like dealing with cancer, early detection to obtain a quick cure… 🙂
Have a wonderful day, and every day, with no bullying but filled with love and happiness… 🙂
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July 6, 2019 at 4:53 pm
Dutch you are so correct! Early intervention is key! Thank you for your kind wishes!
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July 8, 2019 at 5:56 pm
bullying is such a tragic part of our society………..I just don’t understand how it is tolerated.
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July 8, 2019 at 6:28 pm
Thank you Wendi for sharing your thoughts! Bullying can be difficult to spot and even more difficult to prove!
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July 8, 2019 at 6:55 pm
yes, that makes perfect sense……..it makes me sad.
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July 8, 2019 at 7:45 pm
Sad, mad, frustrated, angry, lonely, bullying can stir them all! I hope that by talking about it and sharing these thoughts together with excellent comments from bloggers that we can save some families from feeling this way!
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July 8, 2019 at 7:54 pm
I am sure you have helped way more people than you can imagine. Bless you!
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July 8, 2019 at 9:45 pm
Thanks Wendi, that’s so sweet of you! Xx
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