
Emerge… to rise or appear from a hidden or unknown place or condition, to come out into view
It just occurred to me this morning, that both our adult children are up bright and early heading on their own individual, unique adventures.
Both of them have been embracing life to the fullest of their individual ability, facing up to life’s challenges, enhancing their potential, writing their story and creating dreams to cherish.
You might ask what’s unusual about two adult children getting on with life?
Well, simply because they are examples of what resilience looks like.
They have travelled the long and ugly road of bullying and learned well from its scars. They have swam and often sank in its muddy waters but both have refused to be broken. They have both instead re-crafted themselves into emerging and evolving version of themselves.
And I am a mother, like any mother, who is both proud of them and equally trusts in their own ability to be proud of themselves.
The mistake we made, which I’d like to share with other parents is…
We taught our children to have respect for others but we forgot to teach them; actually we couldn’t teach them the importance of self-respect, because we didn’t know ourselves how important it was. We have painfully learned, that self-respect is vital and the only way to get it is to respect yourself enough to
EXPECT RESPECT FROM OTHERS and take NOTHING LESS!
I wish you and yours, similar life learning and life embracing adventures.
Have you or your family experienced bullying? Have you learned the importance of self-respect?
Le grà ,
Mindfully Marie Xx
April 19, 2019 at 8:07 pm
Thank you for sharing and glad that the children are doing well… what the bully is hoping for is the person being bullied loses confidence in oneself and self-respect.. when one maintains that confidence and self-respect, the bully loses.. 🙂
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent, never give it. “ Eleanor Roosevelt
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April 19, 2019 at 8:14 pm
I love your comment and quote, both so true.
Time Dutch and following your heart; finding what you love, repairs and rebuilds damaged confidence and it is a powerful feeling knowing the bullies have lost! Thank you for being a constant!
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April 19, 2019 at 11:02 pm
Well said Marie, if others don’t respect me I step away as quickly and as far as possible!
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April 19, 2019 at 11:04 pm
Yes, getting better at that and it’s an empowering feeling!
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April 19, 2019 at 11:05 pm
empowering and smart … those who don’t have respect are the trouble makers and we all need to be wary of those!
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April 20, 2019 at 3:45 am
So true Marie. Self respect.
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April 20, 2019 at 3:48 pm
Great message Marie! I don’t know if this is your thing but I’ve nominated you for the Sunshine blogger award. It’s entirely up to you if you want to take part.
Much love to you and your family 😊
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April 21, 2019 at 10:03 pm
A very good point to remember that I don’t think many of us appreciate or implement fully until we’re a little older and have more confidence to know respect is deserved. xx
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April 29, 2019 at 6:44 pm
Very well put and a good reminder, Marie!
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April 29, 2019 at 9:55 pm
Thank you Brenda!
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