If you notice your child avoiding situations,
If you notice your child withdrawing into themselves,
If your child has lost their joviality and are becoming anxious and depressed,
If your child is having emotional outbursts,
If you know your child wants to achieve goals but appears paralysed,
If your child shows perfectionist traits and is clearly disappointed by not living up to the high standards they set themselves, then…
You have every right to be… suspicious of bullying!
We’ve been there and our suspicions were correct…
But don’t despair…Bullying & Beyond…1.Take Heart!
Does this resonate with you? Has your child experienced bullying? Please share your thoughts with me?
Much love,
Mindfully Marie xx
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February 14, 2018 at 9:05 pm
My own experiences as a child have left a great deal of damage and is consequently a topic close to my heart. It must be tackled. Thank you for this post Marie. Dx
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February 14, 2018 at 9:40 pm
Darren, I’m sorry you had to go through difficult experiences but I’m glad it helps you understand what I shared. I hope to open up convetsations about it and maybe show others that something negative can become something positive and life changing! Thank you for reading, sharing and affirming!
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February 14, 2018 at 10:03 pm
Thank you Marie. My own experiences have made me more open minded, compassionate and considerate. I would rather not have had the pain but it made me a better person in the end. I would still rather no other child went through it.
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February 14, 2018 at 10:15 pm
I agree Darren, the experience can have a positive outcome making you more aware and resilient but just as easily it can ruin a life. Can you offer one takeaway word of advice for parents or for victims?
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February 14, 2018 at 10:42 pm
I need to think about it more but I will say this.
People are often bullied because they are different and/or stand out in some way. This individuality is something to be embraced and nobody should ever feel they must pretend to conform in order to be accepted. Being someone you are not is setting yourself up for more misery down the line. Parents should encourage their children to be their own person and bullying should neither be ignored nor tolerated.
I spent years suppressing who I was for fear of being bullied or ridiculed even as an adult long after school ended. I was 40 before I came to terms with who I am. A lot of wasted years.
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February 14, 2018 at 10:59 pm
Thank you so much Darren for considering my query and responding with a key points and valuable insight. I couldn’t agree more! 1.Bullies are envious of individuality. 2.Parents need to support children in developing resilience and self-esteem. 3. Zero tolerance. 4. Proactive approach. Thank you!!
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February 15, 2018 at 3:19 am
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your family. I’ve started and stopped in writing my thoughts on bullying. It’s a terrible problem that can effect a young persons life significantly. I’ll write more later. Take care, Marie!
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February 15, 2018 at 6:01 am
Thank you Brenda for reading and sharing your thoughts! Same situation here, starting to write, many versions written and then stopping again! It is difficult to open up and admit the impact of bullying. I guess being/feeling powerless takes time to overcome and feeling voiceless is part of it. It has been difficult but it has also sculpted us into who we now are and when you can see a maturity ahead of its years in a 19 and 22 year old then it has been worth it! I will take care & thank you Brenda!
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March 11, 2019 at 5:10 pm
❤️A post that touches me and I can feel it far into my soul❤️
I send you a warm hug over the ocean🦋
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March 11, 2019 at 7:39 pm
Know that you are not alone and that we can turn our lives around! Your warm hug over the ocean is the nicest gift I’ve received today! Thank you Orchid daughter for reading and sharing how it made you feel. Xx
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March 11, 2019 at 7:48 pm
Thank you for your kind words, you are so beatiful🦋I love the way you write.
❤️
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March 11, 2019 at 8:03 pm
Thank you that’s lovely to know and I appreciate your feedback. Marie Xx
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March 12, 2019 at 11:13 am
❤️my pleasure🦋
I hope you have a nice day🦋
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March 12, 2019 at 8:05 am
Very smart to write the indicators for parents to be aware of/ looking for!
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March 12, 2019 at 8:49 am
Thank you Kate, sometimes as parents we are too busy to see the signs and we can inadvertently put it down to puberty and moods.
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March 12, 2019 at 8:51 am
so true, well done Marie 🙂
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March 12, 2019 at 3:16 pm
Thanks Kate! Xx
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March 12, 2019 at 8:46 pm
welcome
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March 21, 2019 at 2:22 pm
Marie I truly admire you for understanding, for knowing exactly, for having the right words. Most parents think their children are exaggerating
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March 21, 2019 at 10:34 pm
Gosh, that’s so lovely to hear Parakhit, thank you! It took us a long time to fully understand the issue that drove the change in personality and behaviour we were seeing but I am grateful that we could finally understand and be there as best we could, even if we couldn’t solve it. Xx
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March 23, 2019 at 2:42 pm
Believe me most parents think it is an issue to do with adolescence and ignore it blatantly until the bullied child loses all self confidence and worth.
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March 23, 2019 at 7:16 pm
Hopefully we can change that perception by beginning and encourage a conversation around bullying!
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March 25, 2019 at 4:35 pm
Some day, I’m optimistic 🙂
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March 25, 2019 at 6:08 pm
Mee too!
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