By Dr. Perry, PhD “It is our attitude toward events, not events themselves, which we can control.” ~Epictetus Every morning before I head to the office, I go online and check the traffic report. I mentally rehearse my drive, avoiding all congested roadways, and check my backup route just in case. I have a cup […]
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Thanks to Dr.Perry for an insightful post.
If you have read any of my posts you will know that bullying is a topic which is close to my heart. Both my children’s lives were impacted by bulling. Bullying basically means having control over someone. Control is one of the things taken from us when we are bullied.
I have found that the best way to help children recover from bullying is to just be a safe space for them to gain back what has been taken from them by bullies. Be a space where they can rebuild their internal locus of control and take back control over their own lives!
Much love,
Marie xx
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August 3, 2018 at 1:39 pm
Thank you for sharing and sorry that your children had to deal with a bully… unfortunately, technology has given the potential bullies access to their role models… but hopefully change is in the winds and things will change… mainly the children need to be aware that it is not about them, it is not their fault but the blame falls on the bully, someone who is trying to make everyone as miserable in life as the bully is… 🙂
“One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” Michael J. Fox
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August 3, 2018 at 5:13 pm
Thank you Dutch for your thoughtfilled comment, as my son said recently and as I shared in Bullying…he is ‘grateful for it all’. He has learned a lot of life lessons and is mature beyond his years! Your quote as usual is perfectly appropriate and true! Thank you for reading!
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August 4, 2018 at 7:42 pm
Sadly, bullying seems to be more common than ever (and how can it not be, when we see it on TV reality shows on a daily basis, so kids get the message that it’s really okay?). I love your idea of giving our kids a safe place to reclaim what the bully has taken. I think that’s a strategy that will help them throughout their lives!
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August 5, 2018 at 4:03 am
Yes Ann, sadly it is almost normalised. Children become powerless over the simplest of choices even at home, and allowing them time to make decisions and play a part in the decision making process gives them back the voice that has been denied them by bullies.
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August 4, 2018 at 9:51 pm
Thank you for posting this Marie. You already know of my own experiences and that I share your views in the topic. x
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August 5, 2018 at 4:06 am
That I do Darren! Thankfully you have grown through the process and not allowed it ruin your life. X
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