Today I’m counting down the remaining days to my upcoming trip and it reminds me of when I was counting down the final few weeks of my first pregnancy, eagerly awaiting our daughter’s arrival. The feeling was a mixture of concern for the unknown and an all encompassing exhilaration! That feeling was denied to me on my second pregnancy as our son decided to arrive prematurely, 12 weeks early!
That feeling of concern for the unknown and an all encompassing exhilaration is back…as I prepare for my trip to ICASSI in Bonn!!
I realise I have been given an opportunity through this experience to put into practice some of Adler’s theories. Bettner and Lew’s Crucial “C’s” built on Adler’s theories, believing that in order for us to develop and flourish we need to overcome our mistaken goals of misbehavour; our mistaken opinion of our capability and our mistaken value placed on the opinion of others. By engaging with a new adventure I can discover more about this simple approach to achieving Life’s goals.
To be successful;
1. I need to believe I belong…I CONNECT.
2. I need to believe I can…I’M CAPABLE.
3. I need to believe I make a difference…I COUNT.
4. I need to believe I can handle it… I’VE COURAGE.
But the challenge for me lies in handling this new experience with empathy for my fibro/fatigue and recurrent heart arrhythmia. How do I participate rather than find excuses to avoid? How do I develop and flourish rather than stay static? How do I best balance self-care with personal and professional development? How do I build on my social interest rather than self-isolate? How do I get the balance right?
I hope I will discover how as I proceed through this new experience. Thanks for reading and it’s lovely having your company on this learning journey. How have you overcome challenges? How have you developed and flourished?
Hi... failte (Irish for welcome! and pronounced fall-thhha).
I'm a newbie to blogging, here just over a year, but what a great year it has been!
I've turned the corner to 50 recently and two things become more relevant...time and experiences!
Material possessions are less important! Using time wisely and truly experiencing each day holds a new significance for me!
If you wish..., a little of the back story...
I''m blessed to be married to a kind and loving man for 28 years, we have two children now 19 and 21.
As I approached 40 and searching for something more, whilst holding down my then part-time legal secretarial work, I trained as a voluntary adult literacy tutor, with the hope of helping adults improve their literacy skills and have a second, and better experience of learning!
However, little did I think that wanting to help others improve their lives would see my own life improve beyond measure also!
You see for years I found it difficult to know what to do as I watched our two children suffer at the hands of bullies. Their struggle began to change when I returned to education! Through education I slowly gained valuable knowledge, I grew in confidence and self-esteme and it had a ripple effect!
By 2014, aged 47 I had completed a Higher Certificate in Literacy Development and a B.A. in Adult Education. I love my work as an adult educator, particularly when adults trust me enough to let down their defences and 'let me in'. Then I can help them by getting to know what makes them 'tic' and what 'lights their fire!'.
As an added bonus along the way I've realised that I also have a love of writing and that writing is cathartic (providing psychological relief through written expression of built up emotions), both for my students and myself. This blog enables me to pursue that new-found interest and I've really enjoying reading your blogs, sharing comments, getting to know so many people and gaining new perspectives. I also like to share any little 'gems' of learning I've gathered along the way!
Thanks for sharing your stories and for helping me realise that it is all possible...and that together we write a truly better story!
Much love,
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Thanks for sharing!… you will find a way, the moment will come when you realize the answer was there all the time… 🙂 how do I do it, you ask?… I follow my heart!.. 🙂
“It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” Agnes Repplier
lol I used to live in 45 degrees for nine months of the year but you acclimatise … I think this unusual heatwave is much more of a challenge, good luck!
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August 2, 2018 at 1:33 pm
Thanks for sharing!… you will find a way, the moment will come when you realize the answer was there all the time… 🙂 how do I do it, you ask?… I follow my heart!.. 🙂
“It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” Agnes Repplier
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August 2, 2018 at 3:26 pm
Thanks Dutch, that’s so lovely! And you are right, the answers are there all along, I just need to listen! Super quote by the way!!
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August 2, 2018 at 6:00 pm
I think we all need those things in one way or another. To all of our success!!!
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August 2, 2018 at 7:00 pm
Glad you think so Maranda. I hope to share more Adlerian insights…please check back in again sometime you’re free.
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August 3, 2018 at 10:18 am
You are certainly aware of trying to find the balance and that’s half the solution … you can do it!
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August 3, 2018 at 12:18 pm
Thanks for pointing that out…it brings it home and for your encouragement!! They are giving 36 degrees for next Tuesday…I’ll melt away!
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August 3, 2018 at 7:55 pm
lol I used to live in 45 degrees for nine months of the year but you acclimatise … I think this unusual heatwave is much more of a challenge, good luck!
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August 4, 2018 at 7:17 am
Wow! That was hot! Thanks for your good wishes!
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August 4, 2018 at 10:19 am
lol outback Australia is hot 🙂
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